My boyfriend moved out of our apartment three weeks ago, because he has asthma and he says he needs to live by himself in a more controlled enviornment. Well, yesterday I went by his place and found out that he's rooming with a buddy from work. Does he just not want to live with me? What does this say about our relationship?
2006-12-05 11:57:11 · 18 answers · asked by myjanuary_22_friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's being all passive-aggressive and is hoping that you'll take the hint and go away. That's pretty low. If he didn't want to live with you or wanted to live with his friend instead, he should've had the guts to say so to your face.
I'd say confront him about it. He owes you an explanation for his behavior.
2006-12-05 12:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Does the roommate have a dirtier place, pets, dust and dirt all over or is it the other way around?
If his friend is unclean, dirtier or dustier apartment and has animals then it is just an excuse. Asthma does need a clean air environment or at least cleanER that what triggers the attacks. Also remember that strong smells such as perfume, smoke and others can trigger attacks.
Take all this into consideration and then make an educated decision on your own. You have to make the call and then confront him.
2006-12-05 20:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give advice to many people and hope this helps you...you are in a touch situation, because there seems to be a lack of communication between your boyfriend and you...it seems like you are a communicator, because you are reaching out for help and I applaud you for you efforts...some people simply do not know how to communicate...poor communication skills is a big problem with relationships...you can help in this matter because in every relationship one is always stronger than the other in this regard...what I recommend you do is do not push him (if you are really in love with him)...give him some space...conside that his way of communicating to you that he needs space and time, which is natural, is to tell you about his asthma problem being the reason for moving elsewhere...consider that this could be true and then, as life often does, an unexpected turn of events led to him rooming with another guy...we all need a friend outside our relationship to talk to and share things that we cannot with our partners...that's healthy for a relationship...do you have a good friend (boy or girl) that you can talk to and spend time with...let you boyfriend come to you, call you, send you a card...give him some space and time, but you need to find something that interests you and adds to your life...I know this could be tough for you but think of yourself as a strong centered individual, worthy of a special "someone"...if that special someone is your boyfriend, that's great, but be prepared for the possibility that he is not the one for you...look at your relationship as one that you have control of also and you too can decide whether to be with someone or not...remember you are strong, you are good, and you are deserving of being treated with respect and honesty...hope this helps...blessings to you.
2006-12-05 20:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it can say alot but fa the most he might needed the space but be it that it was that soon maybe hes trying to get an reaction out of you to see where yall are headed the main thing is how u take it to make what he did right or wrong i mean the balls in your court what cha gonna do
2006-12-05 20:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by tranelle b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he just wants to be away from the dust but not away from people. It is just that he wants company, and not a replacement. You should not worry. It may just be his friend that is sharing the place for a while. Why not ask him?
2006-12-05 20:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by voice_of_reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him to be straight with you. It doesn't sound like asthma has anything to do with it. I have asthma and I live with my husband just fine. He is just not being straight forward with you.
Sorry to hear that.
Good Luck, God Bless, and Happy Holiday's
2006-12-05 20:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup he's trying to tell you he doesn't want to live you with you anymore or he would be living alone not with a buddy from work. It would tell me he doesn't have the .....to tell you it is over and wants you to say it.
2006-12-05 19:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just need some space give him some time and if it dosent get better break up with him
2006-12-05 19:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by sillyboi32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks pretty bad... If he wants to stay with you, he should be paying extra attention to you right now. Tell him this. If he doesn't want to lose you, he'll do it. If he won't spend time with you, it don't look good...
2006-12-05 20:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he is GAY or he is just a BIG WUSS and cant be strait up with you , or maybe hes banging other chicks. This don't look good for you at all... DUMP HIM
2006-12-05 20:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by SE7EN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋