I want to give my baby up for adoption, but the father won't let me.
HE DOESN'T WANT IT he just wants me to be miserable and not have a life. I already have one kid and I don't want anymore. I have a hard enough time trying to make ends meet w/ just us two, no help at all and hardly any money to support us.
2006-12-05 11:40:53 · 12 answers · asked by mikeyswifeyof4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to talk to a social worker, or an adoption agency. If you can't do it, it is admiral that you realize that you can't afford it, and that you would put it up for adoption. rather then making yourself and the child suffer, Please talk to someone! and have a great holiday!
2006-12-05 11:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really? I have found that men back down when you say, and are truly committed to it, that he is going to be bringing up the baby via sole custody and you are walking. It's hard, no mistaking it.
The fact you state, "I have a hard enough time trying to make ends meet" says volumes. Your hormone levels are making it
difficult to trust the decisons you know are right. Go to women who have been through all kinds of situations...a women's group...not family planning, but a women's support group. Not
sure, but maybe if you use Google or your local library. I raised
three on my own for over 20 yrs and have done very well once leaving their dad. Just have to have family and belief in yourself.
It can and does happen. If in MA, you can apply for several programs until you can get back on your feet. Many states have
these programs. Let me know if you need more feedback.
2006-12-05 12:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by S E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can answer this question for you honey. only you know the answer no one has the right to tell you to give YOUR baby up for adoption. if you didn't want a baby then you should have protected yourself better. if you keep it then i am sure that the state you live in will help you. besides it is not like you have to tell anyone that you are getting help from the state all i am saying is that i feel like you really do want this baby and you need someone to tell you not to give YOUR baby up. you already have a life and that is your kids(the love of your life) remember GOD only gives you what he thinks you can handle. So keep the baby for yourself and not for anyone else this will only make you happier in the long run.
GOOD LUCK!!!! PLEASE MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE!!!
2006-12-05 11:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he pay support? Does he visit the baby? If the answer to both of those is no you may be able to terminate his rights. Call family services and ask some questions. They may be able to help you with this. He can't stop you from putting the baby in foster care, only putting it up for adoption.
2006-12-05 11:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate when people take birth for granted. giving birth to a baby is a blessing. if you knew you didnt want to have any more kids than you shouldv'e protected yourself. Sex is a big responsibility and has a lot of risk and consequences if not done safely. I think you should keep your baby because if you don't you are going to regret it in the future. do u know how many people out here that cant even have kids? do you know how sad that is? be blessed that you can give birth to a baby.
2006-12-05 12:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Living & Learning 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ironic... You dont want your baby, he father doesnt want him either and here I am wanting a child. I wish it was as easy as: I have a fair income, a decent life and I can prove I would be the best candidate to be the father of your child. I wish you could email me the child and I could just download it and keep him/her. I wish I could take both your kids away from you and make them mine. I aint preaching to you, I aint telling you what's right or wrong, because I am pretty sure your reasons you must have.
I wish I was there and I could just "claim" I am the father of both or simply just share your burden in exchange of seeing them and providing for them like that son of a bit.ch of father they have should.
Those are my thoughts on this. Feel free to hate me. I dont hate you, all I can think of is how sorry I feel for those kids and how much I wish they were mine.
2006-12-05 11:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A child is a gift from God. If he gives you a child he will provide a way to support the child. Are you and the child's father together? If not, can the father take and raise the child?
2006-12-05 12:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Christy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend doesn't want you to give the child up, then maybe you should just give it to him. If you feel like you can't do anything with the child then do what you think is BEST for him/her not for your self but what ever will ensure the child a positive and brighter future !!!
I Hope This Helps !!! : D
2006-12-05 11:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both go to counseling to come to a mutual desicion about the baby. Is it possible that he or his family could adopt? Be strong and do what is best for all of you!
2006-12-05 11:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one option is giving the baby up..
but think out the future....
you'll have 2 successful kids maybe.
and the father won't be responsible for those kids so YOUR kids will love you even more for helping them become SUCCESSFUL.
then you'll be proud of them.
good luck anyways.
2006-12-05 11:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by candi=yummi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋