ok...there are these 2 guys that i love and really care about. well ive loved one of them longer than the other but i thought that he didnt like me. well i liked the other guy and he told me he liked me so he asked me out and i said yes. well the other guy found out and he said that he loved me. well this guy is also half hispanic half white(im white) and race doesnt matter 2 me cuz i think its what on the inside that counts. my parents think differently. they think that races shouldnt mix and they wouldnt let me go out with him. i didnt break up with the other guy and now i love him 2. and the other guy said that he would wait on me but i want 2 be with him more than my bf. i dont know what 2 do. i love my parents and i dont want 2 go against them cuz i was raised that way...i have never been rebelious. im just so confused.
2006-12-05 11:34:23 · 13 answers · asked by Amanda Panda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some advice from someone who has been around the block more than once...the statement "love is blind" has some truth to it...the answer to your problem is to listen to what your heart tells you...While I do believe that a you can love more than one person, you should look at what your future would be like if you were actually married to them...loving someone and "being in love" are two different situations...as far as parents go, well I was raised the old fashioned way also, but you have to see yourself as the bird that has left the nest...you have to make a nest of you own...if you make your life's decisions based on what others approve or disapprove of, when do you say "this is my life"?...don't worry about family...they will always be there, no matter if they like your partner or not...some parents do not realize that they make a mess of their childrens lives when they meddle in their affairs...at some point in llife your parents will be gone and then who will you look to for approval in order to be able to make "your life" decisions?...I know it can be difficult, but you might want to consider sitting with your parents and telling them how much you love them and remind them of all the special ways that you appreciate them...they may need to hear from you that "you are an adult, capable of making decisions", but will always need them for "support and guidance"..that is different than them telling you what to do...think about yourself, and ask if you are really understanding your parents or simply reacting to your own fears of being an independent adult...hope this helps.
2006-12-05 11:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd stay with the boyfriend I currently have. If hes not giving you any reasons to believe that he is not the one, keep him. You know why? because the other guy you liked should not have taken so damm long to realize he liked you. Thats a sign of a guy that takes things for granted. If you dump your current boyfriend for him, hes going to see that and see that you care so much for him that you were willing to sacrifice that for him. Then he will be thinking the relationship revolves around him. Its like, what did he sacrifice to be with you,,nothing. Stay with you man, love him, dont go with the other one.
2006-12-05 11:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let them both go... it's hard but it will clear your mind and you will know what you really want. You are confused and both of them being there at once is not helping things... you need some space to figure it out... and remember you are young, there is no need to rush... trust me, your life will work it's self out how it's supposed to be in the long run.
2006-12-05 11:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really talk to your parents about that. i know its hard. im 14 and still afraid to tell my mom but she understands. Tell your parents that races dont matter to you and that you really love him. Then after that you should talk to the guy(not your bf) alone and ask him if he really loves you. and if he does say yes. then break up with your bf and kinda start going out with him. It's really sweet that he's waiting!
2006-12-05 11:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♥I 'm coco for cocoa puffs♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young... I have been there... done that, went out with three of them at the same time... blah blah blah... but yeah it is hard.. i was 16 when i did this...
firstly i can tell you that you will not end up with either of them.. Coz ssoner or later it will be too much for one of them and the other one will lose intrest because the competition will be over.
your parents are important untill you are living alone and paying your own bills... do as they wish untill you're out on your own.
2006-12-05 11:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by miss-pelld 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't date someone who you aren't interested in, and if you are more interested in the other guy go with him! If you think he is nice then get your parents to meet him. If they get to know him they might be more open for you to date him.
2006-12-05 11:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by furmangirl08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah your in truoble how old are you caus if u like a seniour i highschool then as soon as the years over ur on your own
2006-12-05 11:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
will if you are white you should be with the guy that is white because the hispanic they only use you and spend all your money and take advantage of you kindness.
2006-12-05 11:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by elm 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
pray,or see which 1 knows u mo.
2006-12-05 11:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by anOnymOus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with both of them and the one that can last longer than three minutes, choose him
2006-12-05 11:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋