2006-12-05 11:06:04 · 21 answers · asked by Redhead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't believe him but don't accuse him of lying just you shouldn't trust him.
2006-12-05 11:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kayzizzle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fist off, My ex lied al the time about really ridiculious things.. just little things that didnt matter, then i realised he was lying about bigger things, by that point i was already insecure because i lost almost all trust for him due to the little lies...
any lie is a bad lie, no one should make a decision for you about thinking it would be better for you to not know the truth...
I can say with absolute certainty that it will begin to be the bigger stuff that he lies about and you will start to feel insecure.
what you need to ask yourself is "why is he lying to you?" is it because he is afraid of your reaction to things? is he scared you will put him down, tell him off or not like him the same?
you should come up with a way that lets him off the hook and gives him the oppertunity to tell you the truth.. for instance..
you saying "tell the truth" when he answers and you dont believe he has been honest, but when you do, have a smile or semi smile, and dont say it in a way that is scarey, like say it in a way where he feels there is no pressure to tell the truth...
it works for me with my kiddies...
and when my new partner drank my juice i used it on him coz i knoew he was scared i would nut out, but it got me the truth...
reward him when he tells the truth, like.. kiss him on the cheek or forehead and say thank you for telling the truth, even if it is something bad that he did. and then walk away and do something else. dont over praise. if he was bad and admits it then do the kiss thing, but then tell him he was bad and hurt you and now you need some space... trust me.. this always works with any guy. they then think about that they did wrong, and feel bad for it, and usually they wont do it again.
hope this is somewhat helpfull
But.. there are always exceptions.. some people are just out right liars... dont put too much of your time into fixing this, he may never change and you will be left feeling like you dont matter coz he couldnt even tell you the truth.. not only that i was with my liar for 10yrs, I started to find it harder and harder to know what was a lie and what was the truth, started doubting myself and ultimately, he lied about cheating on me, I found out, and kicked him to the curb..
so really, it depends on what you think you are getting from the relationship, and what you want from it.
2006-12-05 19:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by miss-pelld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My ex husband would lie about the simplest things and I would pass it over then big things started to come into play. When someone lies to you for no reason (there are no good reasons) then you can't trust them, you will always try and figure out which statements are true and which are lies. It's hard to move on when you care about someone but the fact is you can't change a person and lying is one thing that can cause a lot of problems because it takes away trust and when you can't trust someone it hurts the both of you.
2006-12-05 19:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs you, you dont need him, let him go. He should be giving you an allowance and treating you like a princess because if he doesnt want to to that, there are plenty of other single men available that would. You own the means of fetal production, and without women, men have no control. Know this, and if he pouts, withhold sex. You will get your way. Remember ladies, men need you, you dont need them.
2006-12-05 19:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are some people who lie or exagerate the truth over stupid stuff that doesnt matter.
but they don't do it on purpose.
but if its obvious his lies are intentional
then i wouldnt believe him on the big stuff.
2006-12-05 19:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by hey there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't tell the Truth about the little things then he won't tell the Truth about the big things. keep in mind everyone lies.
2006-12-05 19:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really common, like he doesn't even realize he's doing it, he could be a pathological liar. In any event though, stay away!
2006-12-05 19:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ring Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if he lies about small things, will he lie aboput big things later? He probably only wants attention. Find someone better. You are worth it.
2006-12-05 19:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gaby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ABSOLUTELY, UNEQUIVOCALLY CANNOT!!!
If you can, get out now, because guaranteed, you will later, after you have invested too much of your time with him.
PEOPLE RARELY EVER CHANGE, especially liars.Believe me, I've married and divorced the best one of them all!
2006-12-05 19:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Of course not. Don't believe anything he says without verification.
2006-12-05 19:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋