I'm a thin, athletic girl, I wouldn't say I'm drop dead gorgeous, but I'm pretty sure I don't make people cry when they look at me...I'd say I'm a happy middle somewhere in there. I'm kinda short for my age (and will be forever since I've stopped growing...lol), I've 5ft tall and I'm 17. However, I'm outgoing and I'm not a demanding girl, I'm not prissy, and I'm just pretty chill all around. The thing is...I've never had a bf and would kinda like one. Anytime I've tried to get close to a guy I've kinda messed things up (I get kinda clingy a little fast, i really don't mean too, and I realize I'm doing it...it's just when I care about someone, as a girl, I want them to know how I feel, and I know guys aren't so much like that...at all). I don't want to be this way, but I don't know how to be any other way. So basically...what do guys like in girls (in general)...and what turns them off (cuz I think that clingyness has got to, I mean I don't even like the fact that I do it...lol)?
2006-12-05 11:04:29 · 14 answers · asked by sk8rgrl02631 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. You're asking for us to write a book, give you couselling, and use a crystal ball to see into the minds of the guys you hang out with. Well try this... The best relationship you're going to have is with a guy that you're already friends with. You have to look at your current friends. Wasting days on end with the same group of ten or 15 people isn't likely to net you a good b.f. When you're to the point where you and one guy that you like hang out together a lot, he goes out of his way to be with you, the two of you like to hang out no matter what you are doing, and both of you don't care at all what anyone else thinks about the two of you (he will hold your hand, kiss you, and call you his g.f. in front of your firends and his.)... until then, you are likely to be dealing with scared little boys who will want you for sex at the most.
If all the guys you hang around with won't spend time alone with you like this then you need to meet new people and spend at least some time meeting new people and hanging out with them.
2006-12-05 11:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I can empathize with your problem. First off, don't call him all the time and definitely don't "expect" him to call you all the time. If he's worth keeping aruond, he should call you, but don't tell him he has too. Second, keep seperate friends. That way you don't take up too much of eachother's lives and it gives you that much more to talk about. Spending every waking moment with someone sounds nice, but it isn't realistic or smart. And don't barge in on "gut time". If him and his buddies are going paintballing or what have you, let him do his thing and don't jump right in there. Again, if he's worth keeping around, he'll notice that you respect his space and will invite to go along anyway. From the sounds of it, there's no reason a cute girl like yourself can't find a good guy. Just don't settle for an asshole and don't change who you are for anybody. Goodluck!
2006-12-05 19:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Aaron B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its good to know that your asking someone your age, i am 17, and the clingyness isn't great, some guys like it because they may be clingy, while some guys are really turned off. Major turnoffs really depends on the guy, because you sound like a good girl to date for any of the guy's you are striving for. A really needy girl is sometimes a turnoff, but a too independent girl is as well because if your too needy then we feel cornered and turn else where, while being too independent makes us feel as guys that we are not needed since we need to feel like the protector, so if you go in between, you probably can't go wrong.
2006-12-05 19:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by RyanThaGreat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax , you need to realize you are holding onto a lot of cards here .
your petite and athletic -good combo in anyones book.
Just dont go blindly in .We are always going to make some mistakes-that what room for error is all about .
To get your room for error find out what he likes in a woman and work it .Guys are shallow at first but can become deaply emoionaly atached ..(Breast, Derrier,Legs,Feet, Toes)
Woman are the opposiste
Men are microwaves women are crockpots .
Find a guy that shares your love of sports or other activities .
Do give him breathing room to be with his buddys .He will want to be with his buddys but he wont introduce you to his friends right away .
Why wont a guy introduce a woman to his guy friends at first , its becuase if he doesnt know your firmly committed to him he wont risk losing you .
So let him have space with his friends .Pretty much do things that are fun beside the whole sex thing . I mean dont just hang around , take him hiking or bycycling .Rent a realy scary movie .Of course when your doing things that arent sex . Do the things you are consistent with your beliefs when it comes to sex .as well. So if your comfortable having sex with him have sex with him if not well thats okay to. If your gonna do the whole sexless girlfriend boyfriend deal . Be prepared to spend money on him . Becuase men can feel used as bank accounts .
So the ideal thing here is to blend nonsex activities with good sex and give him some space to be with his buds becuase until he knows unequivlay he is yours, hanging out with his friends is going to mess with his head on so many levels .
Hopes this helps .
2006-12-05 19:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to be very clingy, and i know that it's not good..
i know you feel anxious and perhaps even desperate for a relationship, but as tough as it may be, you gotta take things slow.
as far as turn ons? well, every guy is going to be different.
sounds like you are physically attractive and generally have a good attitude, so i think the old "be yourself" advise would fit well here..
2006-12-05 19:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Let me tell you this: Men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears.
Atracting a guy should not be difficult for you at all if you look like what you have described - just dress up a bit. 9 out of 10 guys are infatuated with plaid skirts and knee-highs, if you wear that then you'll atract guys like crazy.
Keeping a guy or making them continue to like you and actually stay around is simple as well. PLAY HARD TO GET, but ease off every once in a while. You must discipline yourself to act like they need to earn your respect. For example: A guy is atracted to you, he flirts, you flirt... Back off a bit and play with him.
Look, I know it can be hard, but you just have to act like you don't care as much as you really do... Let them reach for your hand, don't reach for their's...
2006-12-05 19:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Paragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real thing is wait to college...haha as a college freshman myself i can tell you there are alot of girls here that have never really had a boyfriend but are getting alot of attention now.
2006-12-05 19:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pong T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a girl and i guess.... i know what u mean,.. Listen, Guys are weird sometimes u just got to find the right one ask them to dances and stuff to give them a clue. Im here to help
2006-12-05 19:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jack D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just to start you talk too much shut you mouth look pretty, smell good and be friendly and give it up fast.
We don't want no drama ever, just be friendly and hung.
2006-12-05 19:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 We want you for sex
#2 We want as many of your for sex as we can get
#3 We don;t give a shitt what you think
#4 We realize that 100% of your value is in your looks
#5 We understand that ourvalue is in our income
2006-12-05 19:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋