MY BOYFRIEND HAS A 2 YEAR OLD AND SHE STILL HAS A PACIFIER AND WONT GIVE IT UP. HE THINKS BECAUSE HER MOM WILL LET HER HAVE IT WHEN SHE IS WITH HER THAT HE HAS TO DO THE SAME IN STEAD OF HAVING HIS OWN RULES WHEN SHE IS WITH HIM. SHE IS 2 I THINK SHE KNOWS BY NOW WHAT SHE CAN AND CAN'T DO WITH EACH PARENT, AND SHE KNOWS THE HE WILL GIVE IT TO HER IF SHE CRYS. HE SAYS HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE THE BAD GUY WHEN HER MOM WILL GIVE IT TO HER.RIGHT OR WRONG? I HAVE ONE ON THE WAY AND I WANT THIS PROBLEM TAKEN CARE OF BEFORE THEN SO SHE DOESN'T TRY TO TAKE THE BABIES AWAY LIKE SHE DOES OTHER KIDS.
2006-12-05 10:49:37 · 11 answers · asked by NICOLE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
His lil one needs to get off the pacifier now. Kids can have some serious problems later in life with their teeth from having them. Their teeth can grow in uneven and it can cost a lot of money to correct it. His daughter is old enough to understand that she doesnt need it anymore. Its just a matter of both of them taking it away from her.
2006-12-05 11:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem , someone already told you that a two year old is to young to understand that there are two sets of rules ...NOT TRUE ..Two is a good time to start learning also that his ex starts learning that the same rules do not apply with you. Just take the pacifier away when the child is at your house and let your ex know that if they are brought to your house they will be thrown out ,she will grow tired of buying new ones and will take them away before being brought to you. Just don't let the kid start on the fingers you cant take those away.
2006-12-05 11:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by SE7EN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a child should have it up to about the age of 2. But don't forget that the child isn't the one in control. The parent is. So let the baby cry, and don't give it to her. The baby won't think of you guys as the bad guys. Well, actually she will, but that goes on until they move out. Don't give the baby everything she wants just cause she said she wants it. You need to set boundaries, and one of them has to be that the child does not control the parents. And when she gets older, if she wants something and you say no, she will throw a fit until she does get it. Don't let that happen. Manners and everything like that start when they are first born. Don't wait 'til it is to late, cause then you won't be able to control your child.
2006-12-05 10:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your child. You should stay out of it. The more of an issue that you make; the worse it is. Children usually give those things up when they are ready. Forcing the issue does nothing but cause conflict. The pacifier is comfort to a small child. Let this issue go. THE PARENTS ARE IN A BETTER POSITION TO DECIDE WITHOUT YOUR INTERFERENCE.
2006-12-05 11:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by leaving.florida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the poor child ALONE. She is just fine WITH the pacifier. The pacifier is a form of comfort for her and she will actually give it up when she is ready. Your boyfriend sounds like a control freak.
2006-12-06 16:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it would be good for him and the mother to be on the same page other wise it will just confuse the child...she needs to know its not acceptable to still have a pacci..and buy mom still allowing it she will not understand why mommy thinks and says its okay yet daddy doesnt...i think she will grow out of it on her own though..i was 4 yrs old and still with a pacci..my mom had to lye and say my kitty took a poopy on it..LOL! good luck..best thing is to get mom on the same page though or truley it will not do any good..try to tell her that she needs to gather all her pacci's to the little babies who need them..this may give some inncentive and make her feel proud..of course u probley will not ever give them to any babies but make her think you will!
2006-12-05 10:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by kyras_mommy121205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the child is to young to understand there are two sets of rules. Both parents have to work together, if he takes it away and mom doesn't it will only make his life hell.
2006-12-05 10:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer Dalpe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No beacause that child will just end up favoring the parent that gives into her and gives her what she wants. both of you have to be on the same page with the binkie
2006-12-05 11:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by dnea63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both parents should compramise and agree on a decision if not it will for sure not work that is only confusing the child
2006-12-09 06:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by texasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can
my brother has my niece on most weekends but her mother gives her ,her bottle so when she is at his house he taakes it away and put it up where she can't find it but u really should work together on this
its the same with the pacifier
she never notices either
2006-12-06 10:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmy Pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋