Why do women say that they want a guy for love when they want them for money and security only?

Question

It just really pisses me off. That's why I never want to get in a relationship because I don't want to be used. I'd rather be lonely and give nothing up to anyone or be fooled than to look like a fool.

Women piss me off sometimes.

I cannot be dominated. I am the dominant one.

Answer 1

Not all women! I want a guy for love! My proof is that I'm dating a broke college student (I'm in college also) who doesn't have any money and DEFINITELY CANNOT provide any security. (lol) But I still love him and I'm still crazy about him. Don't give up on women, you'll find the one that wants you for you (instead of money and security).

Answer 2

Well, if you're not willing to give up anything, you're not ready for a relationship. If you don't want to get hurt, you can't have a relationship either, since love and hate are closely related. And not all girls are after money. My boyfriend has no education, no house, no car, no money basically. He's enormously slim and is absolutely not muscular, so protection and wealth were obviously not on my wish list. The reason why I love him anyway, is because he's sweet, he loves me back, I know he wouldn't want anyone else, he treats me like I'm his little princess, he's there for me when I need him, I feel at ease when I'm around him, he makes me do things I would have never done before, he makes me feel like I'm more worth than I was before. I love him, and I wouldn't want to trade him for any money in the world.
And by the way; I'm studying my forth year at university, so next year, he'll be living on my money, but is that 'taking advantage' of someone? I just happened to be the person in our relationship that will earn the most money in the future. So what?

Answer 3

hun you really shouldn't be so cynical about love... trust me, because of bad past experiences with men i am a little bit, but i try not to because i know not all men are like that... not all women want a guy for his money. granted i would like to feel secure in a relationship, but for emotional reasons, not monetary. i have absolutely no problem working as long as the guy is making some kind of money, or making a true effort to find a new job if necessary. i'd actually like to be financially self-sufficient before i lunge into any kind of serious relationship. besides, a relationship should be equal in every aspect possible... no domination as you say you want to be. if you want to be the dominant one, then wouldn't you want a "traditional" life where you worked and made the money and your wife stayed home to take care of the house, kids and cooking? you can't have it both ways. i know that's not for me as i prefer an egalitarian lifestyle, but you will find the right girl for you someday, so don't worry.

happy holidays :) ... and email me anytime if you like or want to ask something about my answer

Answer 4

I understand how you feel but that is certainly not always the case.

I do not use men. However, I do believe it is nice for a man to pay on dates and court a woman. But I have no objection to going dutch at times either.

I was brought up to believe that a man should treat the woman and be treated as such. When I am in a relationship with someone I am a "ride or die" chick and I am down for my man, so it goes both ways as far as having each others backs.

Bottom line you have to consider the types of women you have been dating. Do they have character? What type of ppl are they? Are you taking the time to get to know them well?

A person always knows when they are being taken advantage of, they just may not want to admit it, or they are getting something out of the situation in some way themselves.

There are quality women out there who want love...and soon you will find someone who is worth what you have in your heart to give.

I am very giving in nature and have been taken advantage of plenty of times in dating situations in my past. I learned from it and did not allow it to change who I am, but it did make me wiser and more cautious of who I do it for.

Don't give up...she's out there.

Answer 5

Not all women want money and security. Some actually earn their own money and are already finacially secure before they meet their partner. Perhaps that is the type of women you should lean towards when dating? Don't generalize about all women! We are NOT all alike and quite frankly I being a women could care less if you are poor or rich it's about the person on the inside not the amount of $$ in the bank. Money is nice but it doesn't buy love!

Answer 6

Im sorry to see you feel that way. Looks like you may have been hurt one too many times.

I love my partner dearly and ive been with him for 6 years and am pregnant with our first child. Money and security is not the be all end all. I know this, because i was the one that supported him in his time of need. Especially this year. He has been through so much hell.

He was diagnosed with testicular cancer early this year and he left his job for treatment. We both got evicted from our house and i had to move back in with my parents and he back in with his. I was by his side during treatment and he was receiving no funding from the Government while he was sick (except for his medicals). I then found out i was pregnant before he started radiation. After i got myself back on my feet financially, we moved out again two months ago and are now renting our own place. He did find another job again and is now in remission.

I would go to hell and back to support him. He is and always will be my lifeline...but not for security or money. But because of love. He is my best friend, my lover and my soul mate. When you love someone that much you do anything for them....as long as they can love you as much in return and i know he does.

Women who have insecurities hang on to the negative side (and it can happen with men too) and hold onto things for the wrong reasons. Thats where your problems come in. But women who are confident with themselves dont feel a need to hold onto money or material things. If i had just a tent to live in and a hole to s&^% in just to be with my partner so be it. In some ways ive already done it by losing my own home and his health.

There are proper and decent women out there....but just like everything else its like a pick of the Lotto....you never know when or if your ever going to find it. You have to take that risk - if you dont you may regret it for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

A lot of women don't need men for money and security. I'd rather earn that on my own. Some women really do just want to be loved. (I'm not one of them.)

Answer 8

You have to find a girl that is not insecure with herself. If she has to fully depend on you in a monetary way then she is not worth a dime. A relationship should be give and take and each person in a relationship should have their own hobbies, things of interest, employment etc. along with things that you have in common- that way a relationship is more interesting. Girls who are looking for the knight in shining armor are shallow and not all girls out there are looking for a walking money tree.
I was in a relationship that the reverse had occured, I was making the money and my spouse was a Jack of all trades master of nothing. It was draining me mentally and monetarily! When I got on with my life, I was able to support myself and buy things on my own while he went back to live with his parents.

Answer 9

There are some women out there that truly want love and could care less about money. I'm one of them :)

Answer 10

Not every woman is like that. If you don't trust her, she will know & won't trust you. It's a vicious cycle. Just be more careful about letting your guard down completely. Take relationships very slow, & allow time to earn each other's trust. Don't be bitter; you're only hurting yourself. You deserve to find happiness; let yourself!