I just posted a question and someone said its obvious my boyfriend has the upper hand in our relationship - and its so true, how do we shift the power, so its equal( hes really mad at me right now and we might break up anyway,) but just in case, is there any way to switch who has the upper hand or equal it out, what would i do ( weve been together 4 years and he is definetly the dominant person in our relationship and i dont get much out of it)
2006-12-05 10:41:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont want more power- i just want us to be equal, and i need a way to switch it so we are balanced.
2006-12-06 05:58:29 · update #1
If you don't get much out of the relationship I have to wonder why you want to continue anyway-- "equal" or not. I don't think a healthy relationship is based on competition for control. How about mutual respect instead.
My advice is to break up with him, if it's greater control you want. That is an act that will put you into a position of control. Perhaps your self-image and esteem need a boost. Then if he wants you back, you can accept him back under your terms. If that's what you want. Sounds to me more like it's time to move on though. Good luck.
2006-12-05 11:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...I wish some people would help us out!
2006-12-05 18:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋