Do you belive that a couple should get married before starting a family?

Answer 1

For legal reasons, it is sometimes less complicated ... but my opinion is ... if the couple love one another and want a child as an expression of that love ....blessings be! .. just always be there for the child, no matter what happens in the relationship!!

Answer 2

I believe a couple should get married before starting a family. The problem with people this day and time is we have stooped to the point we don't fight for our relationships. We have started living together, "trying the milk" before we by the cow. Simply living together gives the person a way "out" when the rubber meets the road. When people are in a dating relationship, endorphins, emotions and excitment mask what is really going on. Dating should be a time when people discuss what they want, believe and desire. A time to discuss your dislikes, habits and etc. What happens instead is that no one discusses real life during this period, and move from going out on friday and saturday nights, to a live in relationship. Then in a couple months here come baby. The relationship crumbles because of the pressure of trying to figure out your relationship and when the pressure cooker explodes someone moves out and there you go another single mother/father left to try and bring yet another child up in a broken home.

You often hear women say it is my body, and men say it is my life and I will do with it what I want. However when a baby is conceived, you no longer have rights to your body and your life, because you chose through your actions to bring another defenseless life into the world and at that point you are obligated to step up to the plate and provide for that baby until they are able to stand on their own two feet. Also, if you are not stable enough in your relationship to committe to marriage, why would you want a baby in that same situation. Settle your lives first in marriage, take some time to enjoy one another and then decide if you want a baby. The couple must prepare so that yet another life is not ruined by divorce, not knowing their parent. Or live wandering why they were rejected.

Answer 3

We are living in a disposable society, once we have no use for something we throw it away. I believe that two people should start a family once they are married, this is what I feel is right for me. However this is not the rule, there are many reasons why two people chose to live together and start a family before being married. Financially speaking they might not be in a position to have the lavish wedding they want, so they chose to have it further down the line. I have an uncle who started his family with his now wife years before marrying, 15 years later they are still happy together. They took an unconventional path but it worked for them.

Answer 4

That is tricky. Being married doesn't automatically give a child a stable and healthy environment.

Personal I wish my parents never got married. They got pregnant with my older sister and attempted to do the right thing. By the end of their marriage they were bitter that it reflected on how they treated my sister and I.

Marriage is just a legal piece of paper technically. All that matters is that the mom and dad are committed to raising a child financially, mentally, physically, and emotionally.

The definition of the family has changed. Just because the parents are not married doesn't make the family dysfunctional. Heck there are nuclear families that are more dysfunctional.

Like I said I have seen nuclear families that are both functional and dysfunctional and I have seen non nuclear family who are both functional and dysfunctional. So it is really hard to say either way.

Answer 5

Absolutely Yes!

Answer 6

It depends what you mean by getting married. This might sound like a stupid comment, but in a Biblical sense, marriage is just an agreement between two people and doesn't necessarily involve a priest or an official institution to certify the marriage. In fact, there is only one reference to a marriage by a priest in the Bible -- in Genesis.

So really what you're asking is whether a formal declaration of marriage is necessary and if this is the rule of the society, then it's probably wise to do so.

Answer 7

Yes, absolutely! Think of your own life, whether or not your parents were married, can you deny the fact that it was better that, (or would have been better if), they were married? Getting married shows committment on the parts of both sides. It is a union before God and man, and the best way to start a family.

Answer 8

Yes, because if they start having a few kids before they are leagally married, something could go wrong in the relationship, and one of them will be all alone in debt with the kids.

Answer 9

Marriage means absolutely nothing. My sister and nephew lives are totally screwed now and will remain that way because of her husband. See, she finally woke up to that drug dealing, abusering, thief and left him but he's my nephew father so now she'll have to deal with him until the day he dies (which probably isn't that long from now given that he's been in and out of prison for drug dealing 5 times and overdosed with my three year old nephew in the house alone with him. If my sister hadn't thought to come in and check on them, who knows what would have happened. My nephew might be dead).

It would have been better if she'd never married him. But she was pregnant and she wanted to give her son a real family.

Now we have to live with what this complete jerk is going to do.

So, no I don't think that a couple needs to get married before starting a family. Sometimes its better if they don't.

Answer 10

yes!its better to get married before u start to build one big happy family! marrage is one of the best foundation of a 2 loving persons