Ok so check this out...I have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. Me and her dad are not together. I've always and still have feelings for him (I LOVE HIM)!! But he married his ex-girlfriend and then he joined the army. We havent seen or talked to eachother for about a year and a half. Now that he started calling me he tells things that are too late to hear. I know for a fact that his wife does not how to take care of him. There are times that I feel do we do have a chance to be a family! I miss him so much and my daughter deserves the both of us together. Should I fight for the person that I love or do I leave him alone for good????
2006-12-05 10:19:44 · 5 answers · asked by VANESSA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIGHT FOR IT!
2006-12-05 10:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to focus on the facts including things you stated:
He is married to someone else-he chose to marry someone else instead of you; the mother of his daughter.
He has not seen or talked to you for about a year and a half and (I'm guessing he hasn't seen or talked to his daughter in the same time period either, which at this point is most of her life.)
In your question you stated that he is telling you "things that are too late to hear" and you're saying it for good reason-it is too late at this point.
My thoughts:
If he truly cared for you and your daughter, he would have contacted you both a lot sooner-this is the 21st century there is the phone, internet and we still have snail mail.
Even if his wife does not know how to take care of him that is still his situation and one that he needs to deal with by making a decision on how to handle it.
Try not to commit to him in any fashion feelings or an actual relationship while he is married. If he really wants to be with you, he'll divorce her, don't accept anything less to be involved with him again this is only if you feel that you ABSOLUTELY have to be with him.
In all, I feel you're putting yourself-your heart, your emotional stability as well as your daughter's at risk by being involved with him in such a manner. I think at MOST you should work on a friendship with him for the sake of your daughter, but nothing more.
I'll end with a couple of proverbs/cliches:
"Everything happens for a reason"
"There are plenty of fish in the sea"
“A sad thing in life is that sometimes you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.”
Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-05 18:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's you EX for a reason, he's probably calling and telling you what you want to hear to get an easy lay.... Your daughter deserves 2 parents, not necesarilly together. Stay away!
2006-12-05 18:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and tell you your feelings. Try to smooth over things that made you divorce. If he still has feelings for you, go for it, but wait until he is single and availble or else you aren't setting a good example for your daughter.
2006-12-05 18:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If that's what you want don't worry about what others might say... DO what is in your heart....
2006-12-05 18:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋