I love to buy them expensive clothes, and toys...case in point, my 14 year old son has about 8000 in name brand clothes, a wall closet unit, a black leather chaise lounge, all the video games, his room is about 700sq.ft above the garage plus we have an inground, bought for the kids.
My son is NOT a bragging brat, shares everything, has many friends, volunteers at church daycare...he is a great kid, but I get alot of flack for giving them things.
2006-12-05 10:06:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
dont tell me save for school that is already taken care of, should I mention that I was dirt poor as a child.
2006-12-05 10:09:17 · update #1
instead of judging or getting jealous, maybe answer the question.
2006-12-05 10:12:32 · update #2
I hope that someday you can see that there is more to you, your family and this life than the material garbage you post about on this board all the time. Maybe you think that we envy you. I feel sorry for you.
2006-12-05 10:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly? You sound a bit braggish, but I would be too. So, you go girl! Married good. That's great. It is because you want them to have everything you didn't have as a child. I know what it is like. If you are like me, I would want my children to wear the best because it is a direct reflection on me as a parent. Even when I didn't have a lot of money, I made sure my kids had the best. You must keep in mind though that they should only be showered with goodies when their behavior warrants it. Know what I mean? Push them to help with everything around the house and to do well in school and they will be just fine. Make sure they know they have to earn those things they want and keep their attitudes spiritually blessed too. Tell them you would like for them to share their time and wisdom with those less fortunate and to never brag or be vain about what they have and to be thankful.
You go Mom! I wish all parents could be able to provide in the monetary way. Sometimes though, money isn't what the kids want. They want their parents to be at that school play and not at work. Make sure that your relationship with the dad is on good grounds too. Because no matter how much money and goodies are there, they need your attention, both of you, more than anything.
2006-12-05 10:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I like expensive things too....but I work for them. Are you teaching your son that things don't come for free? Of course he has a lot of friends because he probably has ridiculous material possessions. I came from a wealthy familly and I know first hand that when you get into the real world it's hard to make the adjustment from getting whatever you want whenever you want it to actually working for it. Me and my husband have talked a lot about this since we are going to be parents in August and we had completely opposite upbringings. We decided our child has to understand the simple fact that things aren't free and they're are other children out there that have NOTHING. So instead of spending a stupid amount of money on your kids why don't you be generous and help those out in need????
2006-12-07 06:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~A~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters most is how he acts... he sounds like he is a well rounded boy who appreciates everything that he has and is willing to give to others just like you've given to him... I think that as long as he stays like that you have nothing to worry about. I do hope that he understands the value of money though, all in all, who cares about those people who are giving you a hard time. Chances are, if they were in the position to provide for their child financially as you are, they would do it. I always said that I wouldn't spoil my kids and now that I have one, I can't help myself. She's nine months old and has all kinds of toys and clothes... I'll continue to buy her the things that she wants as long as she appreciates what I do and understands the value of money... moral values are so much more important in the long run and if they have moral values then they're not "spoiled".
By the way I was really poor growing up too so I know where you're coming from... it's a good feeling to be able to give your children what you weren't able to have growing up.
2006-12-05 10:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not asking a question. You're trying to brag.
Anyway, perhaps you should consider taking all those toys and things and instead spending the money on an upgrade to a double-wide. People with money don't feel like they need to brag about it on yahoo answers.
2006-12-05 10:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You spoil you kids because you love them and want them to have the best, but don't overdo it. Just give them the necessities and some material stuff once in a while but not all the time. It's great that your son dosn't brag, but that's rare in kids. Also, he may start as time goes on...the teenage years are the hardest and you will find that out very soon. Don't give them everything but don't take it all away as well. Give them what they deserve and should have. May God bless you as a Mother and Wife.
2006-12-05 10:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by jbauersgirl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You want to spoil your kids because you came from a poor background and feel inadequate and insecure. This has little to do with your son. It is merely an attempt to show your 'friends' that you have money. You will continue to do so in futile attempt to fit in with them. However, I guess that most of them see through what you are doing as easily as the rest of us do. However, since you apparently do not see this, you will continue to spend more and more on him in your vain attempt to ease your own insecurities.
2006-12-05 10:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you shower your child with material possessions and hes well mannered why did you even bother wasting your time with a paragraph that hardly even has a question in it? but for the sake of humoring you, you were poor and now your married to a rich husband so instead of your parents giving you things your using your spouses money to spoil the child you werent. personally, i wouldnt of wanted a child hood filled with everything i wanted, it gives me something to work for. btw i hate rich people who just talk about there f'in money and possessions, so die.
2006-12-05 10:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by houseman2012 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably like to see their satisfaction, but keep in mind that it's a bottomless pit. Instead of showering your kids in material goods, perhaps take a family vacation.
2006-12-05 10:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as u have bought him up to share etc then seems fine to me. if he had grown up to think everything was his, didnt share and was ACTING like a spoilt brat then u have a problem. but ur son seems to apreciate it by sharing and volunteering. well done :-)
2006-12-05 10:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋