My ex's brothers girlfriend came to see me today.I am assuming that my ex has talked to her since she is living with him mom and he is home on some weekends.My ex and I had a very serious relationship for 2 1/2 years, and broke up in late July.There was one month that him and I didn't talk, and during that time he met a girl and got her pregnant.He said he then realized that he wanted me more and regreted it and that we weren't together.I said I would help him as a friend and have been trying to get over it since.Now that i want to get back with him he says, he wants to wait cuz he feels "forced".This woman came and talked to me today and said that he is going through a phase where he needs to be with other woman,and that the more he sleeps with then the more experience he'll have later.That he needs to go through this phase to get it out now,and that i will wait on him,and accept whatever cuz if i do the same i'm a "*****" or "whore"-do i have to wait on him or am i better than that??
2006-12-05 10:03:58 · 23 answers · asked by College Wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to kiss your @ss good bye because you're better than that!
And you don't want to be with a dirty, horny whore.
2006-12-05 10:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by tofu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that the illogical information you were given makes no sense and is being used as an excuse for bad behavior. You are better than that and in spite of all the feelings you had for him, he's a loser. He won't change to become the man he was supposed to be. Having multiple sex partners does not make a man better at all. It's not a phase;it's a lifestyle that hurts other people and may expose him and others to STD's including AID's. Feel sorry for the child he created . So, he basically is a wreckless sperm donor. Stay away from stupid people. They either learn from their mistakes or they become burdens to the world. You will find a man as great as you, but first you must believe that you are worth it. And you are.Bless him and release him. He will drag you down with him. Please don't give someone out of control, control over your life.
2006-12-05 10:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only ARE you better than that, you DESERVE better than that! A guy who acts that way is no man, and is not husband material. If these are his priorities, then you know something about his character and who he really is. I can't imagine that this is the kind of person you want to waste your life on. And then...(!!) ... he feeds this crap to his brother's girlfriend and convinces her to be his puppet in trying to convince you this is a GOOD thing?!
It would be pretty funny if it weren't so disgusting. Sometimes you have to step outside of your own head to listen to yourself. So here's what I want you to do. Stand in front of the mirror tonight and tell this story to yourself so you can watch and hear yourself say it. I bet you won't be able to finish with a straight face. There are good men out there. Set your standards higher and you can find someone you deserve.
2006-12-05 10:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God what a loser! Come on now why would you want him back since he got some girl pregant!
Whats in it for you! Trust me, move on. Tell him you can only be friends at the most. But what a responsiblity that is. How can he expect you take hime back now. I would not no matter how much I loved him.
You deserve better! You have so much more of life to live. And there will be others, just make yourself available.
2006-12-05 10:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FAR MORE better than that!
He is sleeping around and he made a mistake NOT you! So let him be with her and YOU move on to someone far more worthy of your time than this. Move on because now this baby will be something in your life to because he needs to be a part of it!
So think and soul search is this something you really want? It will be a bill in your life as well.....if you are ok with all that and the stress that may come along with this....then wait for him.
I'm not trying to talk you out of it, but I'm trying to let you know what is to come. Life is not the same with him now.
Best Wishes!
2006-12-05 10:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT WAIT ON HIM! Seems like he is playing a game, mind game and emotionally that is not exceptable! I don't know your age, but what ever your age this is not exceptable at all. Move on i'm sure you could do much better, and i'm sure you will be able to find someone whom will show you the respect you deserve! My ex has tried the same crap.....not worth it, it's time to move on!
2006-12-05 10:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by sunflwr037 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!
The guy is a dirt ball, and he's trying to play you. He got someone other chick pregnant, then tries to come crawling back, and then send's his BROTHER'S GIRLFRIEND to tell you to back off?
Girlfriend - get rid of him and find someone BETTER - who can LOVE YOU, RESPECT YOU and NOT PLAY GAMES WITH YOU.
you don't have to wait on anyone. Men don't get be whores while they expect women to sit by the phone waiting for them to come back. This is called a double standard, and the guy is looking for your permission so he can whore around! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT. Walk away.
2006-12-05 10:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait, you're crazy! If he loved you & truly wanted to be with you, he would be~NOW! Please do not do this to yourself! His behavior is clearly completely selfish & self serving. He will hurt you in the end. If a man loves you, he doesn't need to "go through a phase" or get experience; he only needs your love in return.
2006-12-05 10:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well same here girl my ex wants me to wait on him to cuz he as a busy life but he says that he doesnt want to loose me know with you if you still love him you will wait for him but if you wait for him and he goes with other girls that is just not right and you don';t deserve that you can find someone else but if you just keep seeing its gonna hurt more. just let time heal either you end with him forever or you will find some one else trust me same thing happen to me and he will regret that he will loose me
2006-12-05 10:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by GaBriLeLA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh
lol
College wifey.....hmmmm
ya - don't think so
whatever- for what it's worth - what's good for the gander so to speak is ok for the goose in my book. do whatever because if for real this ex's boyfriend girlfirend cousin mother sister is full of ...
2006-12-05 10:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and move on! If he wants to be with you then he needs to be faithful and want only you. It sounds like he has no clue what he wants, has no self control, and is just playing around cause he's immature.
2006-12-05 10:06:20 · answer #11 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋