Let's start off with this: There is this amazing, cute. hilarious guy that I am totally crushing on. A month ago, he said he'd hang out with me, but my friend accidetally asked him out for me!!! And he said probably not. Well, now there's a rumour going around that I like him(lucky me:() and his friend said that he though I was hot. My friends want me to ask him out. The HUGE rpoblem is, that if he said no, I'd blame it on my looks and weight. My friends say I'm pretty, but sometimes I just can't believe it. Well, I worry that if he said no, I'd start crash dieting or something really uhealthy. I might ever magerly overeat. I'm just afraid and in love. I just hate this.
Guys:
Can you please tell me your honest oppinion? I want the TRUTH!
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2006-12-05 10:01:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you're under 18, right? assuming you are under 18, it would be wrong for me to answer your question..
regardless I don't think you need to worry about this sort of thing.. you still have plenty of time to meet "Mr Right", so don't sweat it if this guy doesn't like you.. I know it seems like the end of the world at the time, but before you know it you'll have forgotten all about this guy and be interested in some other guy.. I'm talking worst-case scenario though.. chances are he'll like you.. take a chance! you'll be sorry if you don't!
and whatever you do, DON'T hurt yourself!!!
2006-12-05 10:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I think you are thin and very pretty. If the guy doesn't like you it will not have anything to do with your looks, Sweetie. I promise. You can just not be into someone even if you think they are gorgeous. Just because he may not want to go out with you doesn't mean he thinks you are fat or too skinny or ugly or anything.
Be true to yourself and don't worry about the people that don't like you or don't want to go out with you. The right person will come along if you give it time. And if not then maybe the right now person will be there. Either way, don't ever ever ever let a guy get you down. You deserve better than that. Take care and good luck.
2006-12-05 10:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, the attention of this guy is worth you even considering damaging your body? So what if you lose a bunch of weight and he still doesn't like you? Basically, he's either gonna like you or he won't. My concern is your relationship with food. Depending on what he says you're either going to punish yourself by starving yourself or by overeating.
I can only tell you that so much relief (and male attention) comes when you finally accept yourself. I totally know I'm hot! I also know and accept that there will always be girls that are prettier, skinnier, smarter (well maybe not smarter), and funnier than me. I also accept that not every guy is going to "dig" my look. A helluva lot of them will... but alot won't. I'm ok with that. So instead of wasting time thinking of all the guys I can't have... I've turned my attention to teasing all the ones I can have (joking, kinda). So... what I'm saying is, this guy will not make or break you, but YOU will if you think of punishing your body because he doesn't like you. Few people will like you if you don't even even like yourself (probably just your mom). So, wallow in your misery because crushes DO totally suck. But it will pass and he might just like you as you are now anyway.
2006-12-05 10:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the guy is not the problem here. What he thinks of you does not matter - what really matters is what YOU think of you. If you feel beautiful and confident, then you will seem that way to everyone else. Trust me, despite what idiot guys and the media will try to tell you, attraction has very little to do with your weight, your hair, your bust, or any other physical attribute - attraction is primarily about confidence and a happy attitude.
And I looked at your pictures - you are a startingly pretty young woman. You do not, repeat NOT, need to diet or lose even a single pound. No man would reject you based on your looks or weight - more likely, it would be because of your underlying self-loathing, because you've rejected yourself before he even had a chance.
Fear and uncertainity and self-doubt are completely natural symptoms of being a teenager, and being in love, so you're getting a double whammy of them right now. But promise yourself that you are strong enough to rise above them, that your love and your spirit can keep you safe and whole.
Try this exercise tonight, silly as it may sound: stand naked in front of your mirror and stare at yourself. Look at each part of your body and say firmly, "I love my feet which carry me wherever I need to go. I love my toes. I have great calves. I love my knees. I love my strong thighs..." Name each part of your body and something positive about it, how it helps you enjoy life. Declare that you love each part of yourself, imagine each part glowing with love and health. It sounds silly, and you may not feel like it's true, but if you try to find something good in each part and keep repeating this to yourself each night, you will start to think about yourself in a new way.
It's wonderful that you're aware of your unhealthy habits - now for the next step, be sure to seek help from a family member, friend, or school counselor before you start them again. Good luck, my sister.
2006-12-05 10:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age crushes, infatuation, and what passes for relationships are shallow, fleeting, and numerous. This is a normal part of growing up. Whether the guy says yes or no - and why - will not matter 5 years from now, or even in 6 months. He's just as uncertain and confused as you are, if not more so.
Relax. Be who you are for your own reasons, and allow others to do the same.
2006-12-05 10:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you are very pretty and skinny. I wish i knew what i know now when i was your age. The boys you like now trust me you wont like in 10, 5 or probably even 3 years. Dont sweat it. I know you want to be in love and all that but what your feeling now...as strong as it is and as much as it may hurt...is not love. When you're older you'll look back and laugh that you even acted they way you are acting now...trust me! Concentrate on school...get good grades and go away to college and dont even think about the boys untill much much later...thats the best advice i can give you!! I wish i would have listened to it when i was your age!!
2006-12-05 10:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jaime H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop the drama and realize that not everyone you like is going to like you. Period. It may have nothing to do with your looks...or maybe it does...but realize, what one person thinks is gorgeous, another person may think "ewww" so don't get all worked up because one or two boys don't think you're a supermodel...
...or who knows...maybe they do think you are pretty and there are other reasons they may not want to date you...looks aren't the only deciding factor you know, and for some they aren't any part of it...
If the other guy likes you, then let him ask you out...problem solved...you won't have risked embarassment again and won't have to go on the sad road of crash dieting, and sobbing into your pillow, and all the drama you've already prepared yourself for.
2006-12-05 10:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A few pieces of advice:
You are very beautiful.
You should NEVER base your self worth on what a guy thinks about you.
Once you love yourself, other people will love your confidence and love you a lot!
Be careful posting pictures of yourself online. You are very pretty and you may attract the wrong kinds of people.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 10:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by smedge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you you are very pretty and anyone who tells you otherwise is a **** and some guys don't want to go out with a girl just because she is hot or cute it depends on their life right now and how your personalities match up. Also don't ever blame youself for some idiot guy who want to pass up the chance to go out with you IT'S THEIR LOSS!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-05 10:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looked at your album. You're pretty. He'll probably like you. If the guy ends up not liking you, it's not because of your looks. It's probably because you worry about weird things. But who cares? A lot of girls are like that.
2006-12-05 10:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by methodz1218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋