My son is 2 1/2 yrs old and going through a sort of "whine at everything" stage. He goes through these explosive moods and i am not sure how to help him work through it. Any suggestions or ways to help cope. I would love some answers. Thanks!
2006-12-05 09:57:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is a good time to try to catch the good moments. When your son is acting appropriately, give him attention. Tell him what a good job he is doing if he is handling something well like a transition from playing to eating or cleaning up. Catch him talking nicely to his friend or the dog or when he comes up and says, "Hi Mommy!" and give him attention then. When he begins to whine, ignore him, but when he stops, give him attention then. He will get the idea.
You are a good mom - I can tell. You asked for help with a potentially bad situation. I'm sure you will get through the terrible twos and and some other challenging years that you will face with your son on his way to adulthood and look back and remember all the good times and will hug him and tell him what a wonderful adult he turned out to be. Enjoy!
2006-12-05 10:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
is it a constant? or does he do this for awhile then stop for awhile? say a few weeks? it may be the connections in his brain growing causing him to be irritable, if this is the cause, you most likely would notice a new development, new skills, right after a fussy timeperiod
or he could just be testing out the world, and you, seeing what and how he can control things,,,,,,,, if he gets to the point of misbehaving, then use time outs,,,, it he is just whining in general,,,,, try to ignore him, or explain to him he must ask etc, not whine,,,,,, you may also want to start some type organized education with him,,,,, he might be bored or need distracting,,,,
say pick out a 15 mins time of day,,,, and have "school" talk about a color,,,, gather up things that are that color ,, as in maybe a treasure hunt around the house,,,,, introduce the word to him by printing it on a card,,,,
make education fun, and play like,,,, and that may help settle him down,,,,, you can work up to 30 mins, or 15 mins twice a day,,,,,, its usually best to have a set place, in the living room floor, at a table, to do this,,,,,,, most this age really enjoy this, and when he is whining it will help distract him by reminding him,, school is at ,,,,,,,,time,,,,,,,its also best, if you can,, to do it at a certain /same time a day, as best you can,,,
he may just need some extra structure in his life, and some new things/concepts ,,,,,,especially if he seems like he is advanced for his age,,
2006-12-05 18:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like attention. My son is only 15 months but sometimes he just EXPLODES with yelling just to get attention. Just be patient and stand your ground, but give in every once in a while so he doesn't get a complex. Even though your a parent and children need discipline, they also need love and assurance.
Another suggestion: If you have a husband or partner, they can take the load every once in a while. My husband and I have a sort-of schedule. Everyday when he gets home from work, he takes care of our son for an hour or so so I get a break. And he gets him up and gives him breakfast on Sunday mornings so I get at least 1 stress-free morning. It helps a lot!
2006-12-05 18:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Fashionista 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get down to his level when he is giong through one of his stages and tell him to use his words and then ask him whats wrong and how can we fix it? I too have a 2 1/2 yr old and he is really whinney but, once I make out what he is trying to say I tell him OK we will now try and fix it, ask for a kiss and then he usually stops.
2006-12-05 19:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by kmichelle03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are going to whine...it's what they do when they can't get what they want when they want it. I tell my kids that whining doesn't work for mommy. Talk to me like a big boy. Mommy doesn't understand baby whining. Get down on his level, eye level, and tell him softly, but sternly that this isn't good behavior. If you can stay calm, ignore the outbursts. Maybe it's a cry for attention too and not wanting something material. YOu know what? watch Supernanny, she's great!
2006-12-05 18:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Christine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is just discovering how his actions cause people to react. Try to be understanding and let him know that you understand that he is frustrated but that he does not need to behave this way. You may feel like he doesn't understand, but he does and it may take awhile but he will get through this stage of life. Hang in there and good luck.
2006-12-05 18:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sippy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what I did with my son is I told him I'd talk with him once he acted like a big boy and stopped whining. Then I'd ignore him. Worked every time
2006-12-05 18:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the stage where the kid is just misunderstood... communication between you and him is just off, he cant tell you what he wants because he doesnt know how to put it into words. forms of sign lang. would help, but he's a little old now. you should read some child development books.
2006-12-05 18:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kduble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't spank him for whining (hopefully nobody suggests this). I would try ignoring first. If he gets what he wants when he whines, he'll do it more. You can reward him when he's not whining with verbal praise and attention. If he gets to play fun games with you when he's not whining, I think the whining will atleast reduce. Try not to get too frustrated . . . enjoy the nonwhining times :)
2006-12-05 18:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by bibliobethica 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yeppers, another stage to live through....uuuhhhgggggghhhhh! just tell him you cant make anything better or help him when he is whinning. and then ignor him(which is very hard) try this and some of the other suggestions that you get from the people on this site. merry christmas.
2006-12-05 18:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by chrystal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋