My boyfriend is protective to some extent and its like i have to think about whether he will mind me doing it before. I love him very much and i know he loves me he just hates me hiding things fom him or lying. For example i wanted a different hair cut, i know he wouldnt mind, but when ever i saw him i would wear a hood or part my fringe (which is what i got different) so he wouldnt notice. It's like I think he wont mind but then after im not sure.then 2 weeks later he goes u got a hair cut, and i said yes i got a fringe and goes why did u hide it from me and says i do this alot. Just lil things that he wont like and even hair cut or talking to guys and saying it someone else coz of how he might react just because he dont like them as a friend. same with hair cut if he dont like it he will go funny on me. Do i do what ever or ask him before if it ok, just we argue so much over this, its the lil things that make the big things happen. he cant trust me :( love him so much, advice plz
2006-12-05 09:51:27 · 5 answers · asked by Cherryl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can't trust you for a reason...you hide things from him and lie to him, and they are things that aren't worth worry about in the first place.
It's YOUR hair...wear it how you like, cut if ALL off if you like...if he doesn't like it, too bad for him. Have whatever friends you like...if he doesn't like you talking to other guys, that is HIS issue, not yours (as long as you aren't being inappropriate).
Stop worrying about what he'll think and live your life as you desire. If he doesn't like that, then you two aren't a good match and should part ways.
If you can't be yourself with the person you're dating, why be with them at all?
2006-12-05 09:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably having trouble trusting you because you have been lying to him. You don't need to get premission for every little thing that you do as long as you are being honest about it in the first place. Whether it is a big lie or a small one it is still a lie and after awhile it will make it hard to trust someone. Try telling the truth for awhile and you will see that he will start trusting you more.
2006-12-05 09:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell from what you've said whether this is your problem or his primarily. If you are hiding things because he gets upset easily, then you need to suggest that he work on his temper.
But if you're just hiding things with no evidence that he's going to get upset, then he's not unreasonable in thinking that you don't trust him and that you'll go behind his back about things.
Either way, you two are not good together. You should not be afraid of his protective (or is it controlling) streak, and he should not be giving you reason to be.
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2016-11-30 04:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you there he can't trust you. You need to be open with your man. Do you want your relationship to last? If you just answered yes then the only way to achieve that is to be open with him. Ask yourself "Why do I keep things from him?", is there a real honest to god reason that you just won't admit. My boyfriend is protective as well but we're completely open with each other and he encourages me to do what I want to do. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-05 09:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋