me and my ex have been together off and on for the last 9 years we officially broke up 2 years ago but somehow keep coming back to each other now we live in the same city again he has a girlfriend but he still comes to me when ever i want him are he want me physically or whatever, I dont want to be his booty call but I love him his touch his scent how do i let go?
2006-12-05 09:50:25 · 6 answers · asked by totally confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't demean yourself with this fellow. Do you really want to be the back burner gal after having been Number One? And what's with him allowing that to be that way? I'll actually answer that: because you let him. You are allowing yourself to be used because you are feeling desperate. Don't live your life being treated this way. You have the power to let go. You look him in the eye and say I am better than a booty call. In fact, I'll never be anyone's booty call, and if that's how they define me, I'm outta' here. If you don't let go, you will be second best in a desperate situation, and I don't think you want to live your valuable life playing out that kind of scenario. Say it is over. Mean it. Move on. And...here's a hug!
2006-12-05 09:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I Knew the answer! I've been in that kind of situation more than once in my life. You just need to make yourself available in meeting someone else. If you keep on doing what you are doing then that is all you will be is his booty call.
Don't see him for the physical part but as a friend and move on. You are letting him have his cake and eating it too. Men like him love that.
2006-12-05 17:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh honey, i'm in the same situation as you, only at this point in time he has broken up with his girlfriend..well, the only advice I could give you is try to find someone who is like him, or join a group or something. the key is to get yourself out there so you can start to get over him. if you don't think that is going to work, then talk to him and tell him that you don't want to be his booty call anymore, and that if he loves you then he'll accept that and ask you to be his girlfriend again. i haven't gotten up the guts yet to do it, but maybe this will prod you to :) hope this helps
2006-12-05 17:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by Katie Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever will. When something ends on good terms, you are always going to have that person on a pedestal. You will never get over him. I'm in the same situation...i know the guy is no good for me because I've seen what he's done to other girls. He never hurt me or did anything bad to me though so he will always be perfect in my eyes.
You don't have to let go...continue being friends. If it's meant to be, you'll end up together. If it's not, it won't go any further.
2006-12-05 17:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Get a life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow ma look as hard as it is be real think about it is it love yall making or sex or ask him to choose his girl or you and youll find out if real love
2006-12-05 17:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has a girlfriend and you're having sex with him then you are totally in the wrong and you deserve to be cheated on... imagine being that girl...
2006-12-05 17:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋