So, I have had an extreme amount of feelings for a friend of mine for about 6 years. I was dating his best friend for that amount of time and was scared to get out of the relationship for security issues. He was abusive to me mentally and pushed me around when he was drunk. Also, he used to drink heavily and hurt a lot of people around him.
Now, I have broke things off completely with him. He wants me back and cries to me. I will not take him back. I went down to visit the friend i talked about earlier, this weekend. We had been drinking a lot and I asked him if he wanted me to sleep in his bed or on the couch and he said he couldnt do that to his friend (my ex). His roommate told me that this kid does have feelings for me and that it is obvious there is a lot of tension between us. Should I just forget about this whole thing because he said he couldnt do that to my ex or what?!
2006-12-05 09:44:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really have feelings for this guy, don't use a time when you are drinking to let him know how you feel. Take the time to let him know how you've felt when you both are in completely normal frames of mind. Sometimes the bad people we date make us realize how amazing other people are around us.
2006-12-05 09:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-12-05 17:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋