I've been with this guy for 3yrs and he has a very bad problem and i told me that he was going to quite but he hasn't and when he does stop i have to go through this stage with him like he's on his cycle. Then when he go through this little stage he take this out on me with verbal abuse and i dont like it at all. I want to leave him but I dont have no where to go and if I tell him to leave he tells me he's not going anywhere. So, what should I do?
2006-12-05 09:28:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave his azz. You deserve better
2006-12-05 09:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation with not being able to go anywhere. If it's really that bad maybe there's a local womans shelter you can go to or just work on saving up money - open up a different account so that he doesn't know about it and start saving. Then you can leave. Tell him that this problem hurts you and it's hard on you when he takes it out on you. Maybe also you could seek some help for him, some type of local support so you two don't need to be going through this alone. If he says no to a support group then he's not giving it 100% to quit - which he should be if he honestly wants to.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 17:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to live with a guy who needs to quit something but doesn't. There are safe houses where you can go and stay until you can get your feet under you. You have to decide what to do. IF you decide to leave him, put a little plan together so that you can leave safely and easily. Find a women's shelter in your area and go there.
2006-12-05 18:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"On his cycle"? Does he have a period? Seriously, you either need to leave him, or make him leave. If he's being abusive, call the cops and make him leave. Tell them that you are "in fear of your life". If you can't get rid of him, then you need to figure out somewhere else that you can go.
2006-12-05 17:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have friends right? Go there. If they're true friends they'll help out. Don't stay with this jerk. You deserve much better than that, you know that. You're just attached right now because it's been so long. Just be strong and let go.
2006-12-05 17:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Future Mrs. Beuerlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents, good friends or pack your bags. Just get out. Verbal abuse means he has no respect for you.
2006-12-05 17:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of there... there's many places where you can go... find the local place where you can get help and maybe they can help you with getting somewhere to go!
Good luck
2006-12-05 17:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave or get help FAST! You didn't give us much detail on what his problem is. but if it is drugs or alcholo he should go to AA or NA meetings. you can call any of your local places. good luck!
2006-12-05 17:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋