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One of my best friends had been flirting with this girl we know, and he finally asked her out. I'm beginning to regret it, cuz he's changed a lot since they started dating. Always more worried about her, and I understand that, but every time we try and let him know he's changed too much he gets kind of ticked. So what can I do? I don't want him to dump her, just return to his normal self. Any suggestions? thanks

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Relationships, both short term and long term have a way of changing people, especially in the beginning. Guys who were laid back, cool, and following the “in” crowd tend to become more sentimental, reserved, and tend to wear their emotions on their sleeves once they get into a relationship, especially a new relationship, or a long lasting relationship that has the potential of becoming a serious relationship. Guys start to see their friends as the “third wheel” when they are in a relationship, as well as a possible threat to their relationship. You mentioned that you both know the girl, is it possible that your friend sees you as a threat to the relationship…in that you may have feelings for the girl as well? It’s perfectly natural for him to want to spend all of his free time with her, have his head in the clouds, and worry about her, that’s what people in relationships do. I take it that you are not in a relationship, and maybe have not been in a relationship in the past, or at least not recently? People handle relationships differently, and some people think as long as they have their guy or girl, that they don’t need anyone else. They also don’t see that their behavior is any different then it was before the relationship. So if he’s just not his usual self, it’s because he’s learning, growing, and starting a new phase in his life, part of that phase for him, will be figuring out how his guy friends fit into the new phase if at all.

Answer 3

Well, the thing is... he probably wouldn't dump her just because you and your friends are ticked. For the time being (or longer) this is his normal self. So, the only way he'll "return to his normal self" is either if he will break up with her because the relationship isn't working or the new-ness of his relationship will where off. Even still though, he may continue this. Your problem is faced by MANY in your predicament. Your best bet at this point would probably be to at least act like you accept his new relationship so that he will start to include you mroe in it.

Answer 4

Well sometimes things change. He isn't going to be completely back to normal because his life is not the same. Just try to calmly talk to him about it. Don't be like "Dude, what the heck is wrong with you?" Then he will get defensive. So just avoid that. Other than that there's really nothing you can do. He's got to figure it out for himself.

Answer 5

People always change when they get into serious relationships. I wouldn't even talk to him about it anymore because eventually he will be tired of hearing about it and be done with you. Maybe try finding a girlfriend for yourself, if you don't have one. That will occupy more of your time and maybe you will begin to see why he's changed so much.

Answer 6

Well it's called growing up. Your friend has someone special in his life now and your feeling left out. It's normal. Maybe your friend can hook you up with one of his girlfriends friend. Go on a double date. If not get out there and find some other friends to hang out with when your friend is occupied with his girlfriend.

Answer 7

I think that just beccause he is dating someone that is having a effect on him that you shouldn't try to stop it... Maybe the change is not the PROBLEM....Maybe it is the way you see it.....People always change , but you got to know if it is for his good or bad....You should probly stop telling him that he is always changing cause he might CHANGE YOU OUT OF HIS LIFE>>>!!!

Answer 8

There isn't a whole lot that you can do. It is his decision to make on how to act. He is probably change for this girl and bugging him about it is only going to make things worse for your friendship, so just leave it be and be a friend.

Answer 9

get her 2 talk 2 him.apparently,she is the only 1 he will talk 2.tell her what is on your mind and let her know everything.he should return 2 his normal self in no time!!!

Answer 10

give him breathing room...
its no ones business as far as there relationship is concerned... things will return to normal with time... its a new relationship.. they are still in the "honeymoon" stage... they will get to the point where they want to hang with there own friends.. chill.. dont pressure him or else you'll lose the friend your trying so desperately to control..

Answer 11

well do like my guy does if he thinks he is changing to much stuff to spend more time with me he asks me if i want to join him in some stuff like playing games or whatever but if he wont listen to you he may someone else.

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