Everyone's opinion is welcome here. I'm doing a persuasive essay in class and am shooting to get my classmates to see why sex before marriage isn't such a great idea. I would like for teens and parents to answer especially. Give an example of a situation if you want and explain how you felt. Or if you havent had sex, tell how you think you'd feel afterward.
2006-12-05 09:19:27 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!
2006-12-05 09:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best reason to avoid sex before marriage is an issue of trust. Once you have entered a physical relationship with someone you have have made a bond, that bond gives the illusion of real love and real trust. Even if it is just 'casual'.
Many folks young and old end up sticking around in destructive relationships because they think they are in love, close with someone, or in a bonded trusting relationship. If those folks would have avoided the sex part of the relationship until marriage or at least until a lasting commitment was established, they would have seen the person for what they truly are.
2006-12-05 09:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by xillith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly do not think there is nothing wrong with sex before or after marriage. I think that if you are considering having sex whether married or not that you protect yourself. I have a friend who sleeps with many men and frequently gets "pregnancy and std scares" due to her inability to become a mature woman. I feel that if you are going to have sex, you need to understand the consequences that come with it. I have seen so many young girls go through diseases, abortions and other heartaches because they did not want to take the extra time to go to the GYN because they are embarrassed. My main problem with these young girls is that they want to be adults and participate in adult activities but when it comes to protection etc. they revert to childish mentalities and behaviors. It's depressing that every time I see my GYN there's at least one girl that is under 16 with a baby, crying her eyes out. Married women aren't safe either, I have seen many young girls get married for all the wrong reasons (to escape parents, to have a baby, to be provided for and never have to work again). Then again - what do I know I'm 25 yrs. old No children - While the majority of my friends have children and are jealous of me because I don't have any.
2006-12-05 09:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 23, not married and yes, I have sex. Heres my experience and thoughts -
I lost my virginity when I was younger and at the time thought it was a great idea. Now, of course i realize i chose the 'wrong' person.
But I believe sex before marriage is 'ok' as long as it is practiced safely. SAFE sex before marriage. Since sex and sexuality is a normal human thing that we all have, theres no reason to be ashamed of it.
Marriage was an invention of man to show commitment, etc. If two people have a safe an adult relationship, sex is and can be a healthy part of it, married or not.
2006-12-05 09:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
having sex before marriage isn't bad. the thing is that you have to responsible. and not all people are responsible. that's why there are so many abortions. i gave it up to my boyfriend. that's a really big step.even if it doesn't feel like it is. you know it happened, and when we were going to school i saw him differently. its like if i was walking next to someone that wasn't him. it was weird. we've been together ever since. see the bad side is that some guys just want you that and that alone. for example..... the guy i gave it up to(Michael) was going to leave me right after. but he didn't. for many reasons: 1)he didn't have the heart.2)i made a place for myself in his heart. which explains #1. so unless you are sure that something like that wont happen and that you are ready, then go for it. but ohter than that NO. hope that helps
2006-12-05 09:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by love me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Not only from a religous standpoint, but from the statistics, that tell a story:
Virgins when they marry have an almost non-existent divorce rate.
People who had sex before marriage have over a 50-50 divorce rate.
People who lived together before marriage have the highest divorce rate.
There are psychological and spiritual reasons for this that I won't get into.... but the more partners you have, the harder it is to maintain a loving, marital commitment for a lifetime.
I suggest looking for books on the subject for teens by Josh McDowell.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-05 09:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well i get what you are saying, but everybody is different and that is why this question is hard to answer. For me i haven't had sex, but for teens and as a teen myself SEX is a huge pushover. As a teen you are thrown into many peer pressures, manily from your friends, and this topic is on of them. or another pressure is in boyfrined/girlfriend situation, were one may think that if you dated for a long time then it's time to have sex. So what i am saying is that everybody is different and have different values when it comes to this topic. but i hope that your essay comes out good and that you convince ate leats one kid in your class.
And if i had sex , then i would probably feel groggy at first, but then i would probably go on living my life, knowng but acting as if nothing had ever changed.
2006-12-05 09:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a "mature" woman, answering your question,with considerable experiences in life. In my opinion, sex Before marriage is disastrous! I try to explain this to anyone who will listen, that marriage is based on "trust", and if your "permissive" prior to marriage, the partner Never,Ever really believes you will be faithful. Even 10-years into a marriage, these beliefs will surface. I have seen many a marriages go "down the tube", over this, Trust! Hence the old saying, "Anything worth wanting, is worth waiting for".
2006-12-05 09:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, NO---It's not necessarily a "great" idea
However, that just rules out about 99.9 % of the people of the American society who have already had sex before marriage
Be assured that most answers posted with either say "YES!" or it may be a "Matter of Personal Choice"
Different Strokes for Different Folks
2006-12-05 09:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by What gives? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a wife, but instead a med student, paying rent and bills, living in an apartment with my bf of more than four years- I have sex because I want to, I'm not married because I don't want to be, don't have the time, don't have the need. Why waste time planning a wedding and worrying about hassles of a marriage when you could be having sex!
2006-12-05 13:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sex before marriage --- YES
otherwise how in the world will u know if u are compatible
(parent's point of view)
Now I'm not saying have sex at age 14 or anything like that---but sometime when u are in college u need to have some experiences of life prior to marriage
2006-12-05 09:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by sunbun 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋