Ive been with my man for 8 years and things werent that great for the first 4 years, he was running the streets, and thought his **** didnt stink. All of this caught up with him, and he got locked up for 3 years. I stuck by him like a good woman should. He started talking all that jail mess, (I'm a changed man, I realized how wrong I treated you etc). But it was also things we did talk about before he got incarcerated. He's free now, and things went well for a while until the money started looking funny. He felt like less of a man because he couldnt provide for me, he started running the streets again to get money. All we do is argue now about this. He is trying, and he is a changed man. We are talking issues out, but every thing is OK for a couple days and its back to the same nonsense. He says Im trying please just work with me you are all I got this will be over soon I need to do this for you and my kids.I dont want to be a nag but Im not happy I cry every day.Should I trust him
2006-12-05 09:09:13 · 8 answers · asked by cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Someone once told me you can never change a man.
2006-12-05 09:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by DBCrower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been going out with this guy for 8 years, and he has been in jail already. I wouldn't trust this guy. He keep telling you that he a has been a change man. I don't believe he has been a change man because he went back out on the street to provide for you. That should tell you something that he is not a change man if he has to go back on the street. Has he promise you anything besides saying that he is a change man. Best thing to do is to cut your lost, and find someone who will appreciate you, then you will know he if he was the one for you. Good luck, and move on. If he was a change man he would go out there and find a real job.
2006-12-05 09:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation my ex b/f thought the same that his **** didnt stink, and he also went away for 3 years. he told me the same things that he would change and all that, but really deep down i knew he would he'd been doing that sort of thing all his life really, so i ended it with him while he was in jail. I know that it was the easy way out but really, i had to look after number 1 and that was me and our daughter. And i am very happy with another man who loves us both very dearly. But after 8 years, which is a long time that maybe you could just have some time out and think clearly about things and let him no that you dont want to spend another 3 years waiting 4 him. Something has to be done, its either looking after u and kids legit or heading back to those cells without u. I hope that you can sort this out, i really do feel for u.
2006-12-05 09:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can trust him..to be exactly what he is, somewhere along the line somebody told you "sticking" by him while he was locked up made you a good woman, in my opinion all it did was drain 3 years of your life away, we always revert back to what we are, that's why it may go well for a week or a month but then goes back to the SOS, there may be little changes here and there but it sounds like you need huge changes that last in order to save this relationship..one last thought..I assume you aren't married? So he hasn't even gone as far as committing himself to you because marriage is the true committment of ones self to another, I know that's a bit old fashioned. Finally I say run as far and as fast as you can because everyone deserves happiness.
2006-12-05 09:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Bobcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing i suggest is to see a somebody like a consuler then if nothing works out, talk things out in a calm and reasonable fashion and tell him that you would rather not have money than to have him in jail if he still continues to run the streets leave him because its not setting a good example for your kids and you probably would not like your kids going to jail because they saw their dad to it and thought it was OK then.
2006-12-05 09:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Aflac2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have his head on straight yet and you know it. Until he does, he is going to give you nothing but trouble.
2006-12-05 09:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you respect yourself? Because it's obvious, he doesn't respect you. Sometimes, you don't realize how much you value something until that something is gone..........
2006-12-05 09:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by tippiwoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away as fast as you can and never look back........
2006-12-05 09:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by renee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋