Girlfriend cheated on me, broke up with me, but still loves me?

Question

First off, we are in a 2 hour apart long distance relationship, but spent over half our relationship together at college. We tried to see each other ever couple weeks for a weekend at a time. I transfered, we stayed together and have been making it work for almost a year. I recently found out however, from her, that she cheated on me about a month ago, and proceeded to say she only did it hoping I would find out so we could end out relationship because she was scared of telling me how she felt and having to end it herself. Naturally we broke up, but she still confesses she loves me and cares for me more than anything. All this while she has admitted to having feelings and relations with another guy at her school. What should I make of this and is it still work even staying friends or hoping we will get back together someday? I do still love her and care for her, she is my first true love, but after what she did I'm confused as to how I should view the situation.

Answer 1

She is confused in the relationship.

She needs to get her head together and decide what she wants in the relationship and what she is willing to sacrifice to keep it.

Me, being me, would close it out and let her have the other guy.

Answer 2

You shouldn't be confused, because she's telling you loud and clear, "it's over". It's hard to give up your first true love, but you want to hang on to someone who is so dis-loyal she cheats on you, is so emotionally unstable that she tells you she cheated because she didn't want to be honest with you (come on), and wants to keep you on some sort of string as a fall-back position in case the other guy doesn't work out? Don't hope you get back together, run for your life and be grateful you found all this out now. Have a great life, and don't look back.

Answer 3

I have a first true love and still do, he goes university and see him once a week but without trust and honesty a relationship is bound to fall apart, don't go running back to her, if she really loves you she will come back but let her go for now as this is her choice. She can't love you that much to do this just isnt right, keep her as a friend is you can but for now think nothing more of it and see how it progresses, for now only time will tell.

Answer 4

First of all guy that girl don't know if she coming or going and in mean while she dragging you along. Wake up. So what if she stills has feelings for you, that's neural and for a while she will have feelings for you. And it's neural that you have them too. You spend time with this person, you had a relationship with her, so of course your going to have feelings.This girl has cheated on you and she will do it again. What's to be confused about, feelings are confusing but the facts are not. She don't want to be tied down. Please read ten stupid things men do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger and after reading that you won't be so confuse.

Answer 5

Uh dude, she says she still loves you because she knows she is a tramp and feels guilty. Get over her, just because she was your first true love, it doesn't mean she has to be your last true love.

There are more fish in the sea. Sow your wild oats. Find a woman that will share her emotions and not be sleazy.

I cheated so you would find out and break up with me because I couldn't tell you the truth. She's a lying whore

Move on dude

Answer 6

How else can you view this???
Your girlfriend cheated on you and she cheated on you because she does not want to be with you. She was too weak to just break up, so instead she cheats???????
The...'I still love you' crap is due to her guilty feelings.
What she means is she still feels for you but I am betting it is because of how she broke up with you.
Your best bet is to learn from this, and move on.
There are many women out there that will not disrespect you nor make a fool out of you.
What you need to answer for yourself is, do you deserve to be treated with common respect or do you want women that will lie, cheat, and disrespect you?
True love leaves no room for...'This guy at my school.'

Answer 7

Someone that loves you, will not treat you like that. She wanted to break up with you. It's very hard to be friends with an ex, especially if they are with someone else. I would say just forget it for a while. And when you are ready to talk to her, then you make the move to be friends. Let yourself heal and let her deal with her confusions about how she feels by herself. you don't want to get hurt by her again when she doesn't know what she wants. Let her go because she is not ready for what you are. Time will heal.

Answer 8

I think you should still be friends with her, not more than that. If she truly did love you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. So getting back together wouldn't be the best idea. Although still being her friend could work. It's best not to live life with enemies or just people you dislike. Just be friends.

Answer 9

By your description she is a bit WHACKED in the head and doesn't know what she wants.
Your choice.....stay and get more heartaches and be prepared for repeat behavior or the other option is to walk.
Still, maybe in time and separation she may figure out what she wants, so it isn't a bad idea to remain friends.

Answer 10

Oh my god!!! Get out of that situation now. That is so not fair on you. She is definitely got it all. She thinks she can have her cake and eat it well not any more. You have to look inside your self and be strong. Getting over your first love will be very hard. But its not fair on you to be treated like that. I should know.