My husband and I have an arrangement. I shave his face, the back of his neck, and his entire back and in exchange he gently shaves my legs and armpits and carries me to our bedroom and lays me on my stomach for a RELAXING back massage. Here lately, our 8-year-old daughter has seen me shave her father's face upteen times. Now, she is whining that she wants to shave her father's face. I am not sure if it is that she wants to do it or that she wants to do it because she sees me do it. Anyway, we have agreed that she can ONLY do it if I hold her hand and guide her through it. There is, of course, the issue of her holding a razor, but I would have control. We are not sure if we should let her or not, but I have a strong feeling we should, because we want to include her in this, too. Should we? Also, if we do let her do this, should we do something nice for her, too? I mean something like make her favorite food, something small to that effect. What do you think?
2006-12-05 08:52:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Our daughter only sees me shave her father's face.....NOTHING ELSE!!!!! Yes, we keep everything else between us!!!!!
2006-12-05 11:38:30 · update #1
If your daughter knows and sees you doing it, then yes, she'll want to do it to. I say, as long as you have control of the razor without her knowing that you have total control, it should be alright. If she helps, then it would only fair for you guys to do something nice for her since she's doing something nice for you. Make her favorite snack or watch her favorite movie...she'll feel involved with the family, and she'll feel like a big girl for being able to shave daddy's face. She's 8, it's not like she's 4 or 5. She'll want to do a good job.
2006-12-05 09:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by angelchild688 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
No... I think there's something a little freaky about letting your daughter shave her father's face in what is apparently meant to be a special and intimate act between your husband and yourself. I think making her favourite food would be a nice thing to do anyway, regardless if she helps shave her father's face. :)
I remember when I was eight (which was six years ago) I was fascinated with my dad's shaving cream. It must've been the smell or texture or something, but I loved it. Whenever my dad was at the sink shaving, he'd give my some shaving cream and I'd smear it on my face like he would and pretend to use a finger as my "razor" to get it off. It was pretty fun :) Obviously I got over that quickly, but I never actually shaved my father's face. That's his job, or in this case, your job. :)
2006-12-05 09:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Astrid 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I just really don't know what to think about that. You should help shave his back, and there is no reason for him not to help you shave your legs if you choose, but it seems that there is more to it than just the shaving, as if it is a key 'personal time' for the two of you. Hey, if it works for you, then go for it. If it is 'personal time', however, maybe she should not only remain uninvolved, but keep it out of her sight.
On a different note, children today are too highly pandered to. What ever happened to telling a child no? The sense of entitlement that allows our children to grow up as such brats these days comes from things just like this.
2006-12-05 09:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by gtprinc1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
An eight year old shaving a face? How cut up do you want your hubby to be? Her fine motor skills are not yet fully developed at that age.
You can allow her to participate in massages. Children benefit from them as well as adults. She can learn how to give them well by doing this with you and will enjoy relaxing when you give her one.
Shaving is not for an 8 yr old. Wait until she is shaving herself... .in her teens. And then, Daddy should not shave her. There is a sensual sexuality about it that is not appropriate for a father-daughter relationship. I'm sure you feel that when you are doing it with him. But you as her mother can teach her to shave herself properly and safely.
God Bless,
Sue
2006-12-05 08:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
This is an intimate ritual between a loving couple. I do not think you should include your 8 yr old daughter in it. I do think you should start having your ritual when she is not around though. Explain to her that loving couple need "couples" time and when she's an adult and finds a loving partner, then she can have that time with her partner.
2006-12-05 09:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by rachel_renee_77 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't let her do it...its seems like your shaving arrangement is a intimate thing.....if she just wants to spend time with you guys do something special with her. Like every Saturday morning is her day to help you make breakfast....
2006-12-05 09:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shaving should not be one of those family moments. I wouldn't want anyone shaving me except my wife.
2006-12-05 09:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by delgados12 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't get whats so special about the shaving ritual?
2006-12-05 08:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kandy 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is something you and your husband do, your daughter should not be able to be in this arrangement, it's like...flirting wiht her dad in a way. Not a good idea.
peace- its me!
2006-12-05 09:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by tressasmarie92 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sorry but yalls shaving arrangements are kida weird. Why cant u shave ur own self and him shave himself?
2006-12-05 08:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by kala 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋