My Fiance and I broke our engagment about three months ago, I had kissed another man at a bar and begged for forgiveness and he cannot get past this right now. I have been seeing him and been intimate becuase of guilt and personal satifaction as well, but when I dont see him, I feel so torn apart. He asked me to come over tonight, he wants to cook dinner, he is not pushing the sex thing, but I want it just as bad as he does.
If he is not ready to forgive me, should I be putting myself in this situation, he says seeing me helps him.
2006-12-05 08:48:39 · 5 answers · asked by KCSH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well this is a sticky situation.... its hard to tell if he called off the engagment because he is so hurt at you, or if you kissing another guy was the best way for him to get what he wants, which was not get married.... I personally think that when your so close to someone its hard to stay away. I think you need to talk to your bf and see what is going on. If he doens't want to get back together then, you need to STOP whatever it is your doing with him, if he does want to get back together, then GO FOR IT, besides you were practically married.
2006-12-05 08:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, its obvious. He may have broken the engagement, but he obviously hasnt broken it off with you. You kissed another guy at a bar and he is hurt. He probably broke off the engagement on the spur of the moment thing. Give him some time to get his trust back in you. When you love someone, sex is not just sex, it is the end result of everything else. Love and sex should go together. There is no way he could have fallen out of love with you so quickly anyway. I think just keep on following his lead and you both will soon be setting another date to be married. He doesnt want to lose you, that is obvious. Just love him back like you are doing and you will find it will all work out in the end. In saying that, however, you really need to have an honest, open line of communication and you both should be able to talk about what happened. He knows you still love him or he wouldnt still be able to make love to your. All his feelings are still there, just give him time.
2006-12-05 08:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep putting yourself in this situation, but not for long. You need to make a decision quickly about whether you want to stay with him or leave him. It's hard, because perhaps seeing you "helps him" because it helps him get over his initial anger, or maybe he only wants the sex. Maybe being with him helps you because you love him, but then you do feel guilty afterwards. And even if you get back together -- would the engagement be back on? You need to think through some of the hard questions instead of just going with the flow.
2006-12-05 10:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by rd211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear... well either break up or make up.. but you cannot keep on this forever. You can go to couples counseling and see ig you both can work on this and see what yoru status as a couple is, but this cannot keep on going forever.
Good luck
2006-12-05 08:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know what you should do? I think that you should part ways so you both can heal.
He can't get better with the person he doesn't trust around all the time.
2006-12-05 08:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋