This is kind of embarressing, but I'm so confused right now and need help. I told my bf within the first week of dating that one thing I would not tolerate and that really hurts me is pornography (videos, pics, anything). He swore not to bring that into my life. We've been going out for almost two years and about every 5 months I find more pornography or pictures or anime porn, you name it, on his computer. Currently we are long distance and this is really hurting me that I can't trust him. Is something wrong with me for being hurt by this? Help!
2006-12-05 08:42:27 · 9 answers · asked by asusi9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, maybe I'm not making myself that clear. The reason I asked him not to was I had a bf who was very abusive and was addicted to this stuff. It has nothing to do with thinking it's wrong, I just need to be with someone that doesn't need this right now.
2006-12-05 09:14:03 · update #1
I think you are making yourself crystal clear.
You prefer to be with someone who is not interested in porn. MOST men are attracted to porn at some level. They are visual people and it helps them visualize when they are "pleasuring themselves" - especially. It isn't something that should concern you unless it becomes over the top - I mean they can't enjoy sex unless they're looking at porn. Or, they are consumed with it...or they are looking a kiddie porn, or are into something REALLY wierd. I think that you are expecting too much to dictate what your bf can look at. You seem to want him to WANT to avoid it. Sounds to me like you picked the wrong saint - I mean guy. Personally, I'd pick my battles. Looking at porn is not cheating on you -
2006-12-05 09:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont say dump because certian men will always look at porn , and thier always men that are not too much into porn. Porn been around since humans could create artwork, and scrupltures dipicting sex acts. During the 16, 17, 18, 19th century most art was porn. The reality is want a very moral bf, and hes not the type for ya.
2006-12-05 08:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by ram456456 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try searching at porn with him to be certain basically what it really is he's were given occurring and be conscious if he's keen to contain you or perhaps if it really is something he prefers to do on his personal. when you've finished this you'd be in a a lot superior position to barter the parameters of your courting with him. i'm assuming that you and your boyfriend are youthful. maximum men advance out of porn as they mature. i'm also assuming that what bothers you extra is the actuality that he promised now to not and went ahead and did it besides.
2016-10-16 11:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by uday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sh*t, if every girl left her man because of porn, everyone would be single now!!!
He deserves better, so YES, leave him!!!! He needs someone normal.
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-12-05 08:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys do that and he will probably keep doing it for a long long time. Get over it or get over him.
2006-12-05 08:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sandstorm222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You went digging for ****, you found it, dont complain...besides, if you were to keep him satisfied, he would not be looking at porn behind your back...he should dump innocent you!! Get a life!!
2006-12-05 08:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, cause ALL men look at it,
its no big deal,
and remeber he is pleasureing himself, and not going out there looking for someone else to please him.
be grateful
and try new things
2006-12-05 08:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-06 02:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just get back at him by sending me some pics of yourself....
2006-12-05 08:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋