would you be mad?

Question

if your daughter was getting married and wanted both you and her mothers bf walk down the aisle. My father and nana hate the idea, i am just trying to look in their shoes. Because they are angry with me and if I have to, I will just my father walk me down the aisle because I don't want any feelings hurt.

actually hes not just a bf to my mother, he is her fiance. And I love him like he is my second father.

Answer 1

I know the feeling of being stuck in the middle when trying to plan a wedding that makes you and everyone else happy. The big question is why do you want to include both "dads"? Is it because you are close to both of them and truly consider them both your father. Is it because you don't want to slight your mom or step-dad-to-be by not including them. Maybe you would rather have your step-dad-to-be walk you down the aisle and you can't figure out how to tell your father. What ever the reason, the right answer is whatever makes you the happiest is best. An alternative to having both men walk with you is to dance two father/daughter dances at the reception...one with each of them.

Above all, don't forget--this is YOUR wedding. Do with it what you want. And if you really can't decide, let each of your dads walk walk you mom and step-mom down the aisle and then you can walk yourself.

Answer 2

It would really depend on your home situation. If you have known your mother's fiance for a long time and he has been more of a father to you than your biological dad, then by all means include him. I can also understand wanting your dad with you for the traditional father-daughter thing.

The one thing that you really have to consider when planning your wedding is that you have to make YOURSELF happy.

For the person to walk you down the aisle, choose whoever YOU would feel supports you the most. If you can't choose btw the men, have them both. Your father should understand that you are close to them both.

If you are not a stickler for tradition, you may even consider having your mother walk you down.

Best wishes!

Answer 3

Tough. What about finding something really really special for the boyfriend to do? Like a reading? Walking your mom down the aisle? I can see why your Dad is hurt but I can understand your concerns. Maybe tell the boyfriend that you wanted to ask him but that Dad deserves this right and so you want him to do ______. Something really special!

Answer 4

Right, just please remember this....THIS IS YOUR WEDDING. Speak to your Dad about it, and just in the nicest possible way say that this is what you really want and it would mean the world to you. If he's thinking straight he will go away and realise that it is your day and to go with whatever you want. Ignore your Nan (you will never keep her happy with your plans).

If he's still not happy with it, then why not ask your mothers fiance to walk you down, or if your more comfortable - go solo. This would be just as beautiful and would, I think, make you feel better. In other words if you can't have both then have none. Just please enjoy your day.

Answer 5

If you are paying for your wedding, do whatever you want. If both your and your fiance's parents are paying for the wedding, perhaps you should have everyone get together and discuss your ideas and their feelings regarding the issue. You have to decide if you dont have your future father-in-law walk you down the eisle, will you regret it forever? Will you regret the hurt feelings you cause by having both "fathers" walk you down the eisle, any more?

Answer 6

Yeah I can understand your father being a little upset. If you are still close with your dad you should have him walk you down. I am actually having both my mom and my dad walk me down the isle... maybe you could do that, so you include your mom and your dad in the ceremony. Good Luck.

Answer 7

just let your dad walk you down the aisle...sounds like too many people...It is your day...Don't share with 2-3 others. All eyes on u...save the hurt feelings.

Answer 8

I think that the best wedding gift that family members can give to someone in their family who is getting married is to for one day forget about past hurts and slights and feuds and fights, and try to concentrate on making the day as joyful as possible for the couple getting married. It seems to me that it shouldn't be that hard for people to behave with civility towards each other on what is supposed to be a joyous and yes, a sacred occasion. It's only for a few short hours on a single day. A pox on anyone who is so in love with their anger that they can't do right on their child's wedding and behave with courtesy for a short time. How selfish is that?

Answer 9

I am having the same problem, but to fix that I have a twin brother and its either gonna be him or my grandfather walk me down the isle. I only have 1 grandfather and he basically raised me so he may be the one to do that.

you could always have one on each side walking you out and when you get to the alter let the one who basically raise you keep standing and answer to who giveth the woman to be married to this man because he has the most say so. let the other one have a seat when you get to the groom that what one of my cousins did and it was nice. or just come out by yourself.

Answer 10

Do what feels right for you and your family as a whole. Often when you are debating something, you already truly know what the right answer is, its just hard to fess up to. You don't want to hurt your father or step on his toes so to speak on a day he has dreamed of since you were born.