Me and my friend have been really close for a long time, we go out alot and have a great time.I'm a bit wild and free,n she's much more reserved.
Her grandad died recently and she's havin a tough time at home,Ive been as supportive as I can and think I've been a 'gud m8'.Then she just stopped answerin my calls and replyin to my messages. I gave her a few days as I though she must need some space and I can identify with that.
Then I text her last saturday to see how she was and she didn't reply.
I didn't think much of it and went out with another friend. When I was out I bumped into her in the toilets with another girl I vaguely know. It was really awkward but I tried to be nice and invited them both over to sit with me and my other friends in our VIP booth.They said yeh they might just do that.
I didn't see her for the rest of the night though.The next day I text her n no answer,I text her today what have I done, n she said she doesn't like herself when shes with me!What did I do?
2006-12-05 08:28:10 · 14 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some freindships fizzle out, sad but it happens. People are different and go through stages. She could have connected with a person with different views and intrests to you, which she finds more appealing.
Dont worry about it, you will come across many friendships throughout you life, some which do not last.
You sound like you have been a good friend to her, so try not to take it heart.
2006-12-05 08:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try 2 get a new friend 2 hang out w/ or just hang out w/ ur friends. She needs space and it seems as though she's moved on and doesn't want u 2 b a part of her life nemore so even tho its hard i wud try 2 forget about her. But first u can write her a letter like a goodbye letter 2 seal the deal and close ur end 2 her like she's done 2 u. That way u can remind her of all u've been thro 2gether and c if she writes u back or wants 2 hang around u nemore. If she dosn't than more on 4 ur sake.
2006-12-05 16:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you didn't do anything. It's her. She's the one with the problem. She doesn't like herself when shes with you. She didn't say anything about not liking you, only herself. I would say her grandpa's death has made her look at things in a different way. In a way that you aren't a part of apparently. The only thing I know for you to do is be there for her if she needs you. If she doesn't come around then you've done all you can do. A relationship, friendship, etc...takes 2 people to make it work. You can't do it all by yourself. Try not to let it bother you or get you down. Good luck~
2006-12-05 16:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels that she has to be quiet when she around you because you take up so much of the space around you with your big personality. This isn't a bad thing as long as everyone around you is cool with it.
Another thing, you may do things that she feels as against her morals which is another reason she may not feel right when around you.
Either way, if she is your mate, then you should want her to be happy, even if she's not hanging out with you.
Try inviting her out with a big group of mates and see if you can get her talking to see if there is a problem that can be resolved. But dont compromsie your morals or personality because then you will not feel the best either.
2006-12-05 16:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by devil_pixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when she's with you it reminds her of her grandad a bit. She's going through a lot and trying to blank things out and probally suffering from a bit of depression aswell. Just be there when she needs you because she will return the favour one day when you need it. Good luck x
2006-12-05 17:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes obviously going through a hard time right now and she needs a friend.u may think she needs u but maybe the girl u saw her with is doing ur job 4 u.dont be upset by it as shes probably not thinking straight.wait 4 her to see sense and im sure she'll come back.until then dont worry about it!!!!
2006-12-05 16:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKay so truth is her grandad died so maybe that's taking a really big total on her so dhe doesn't want to be bothered by anybody else. You must great friend by way it sounds you didn't do anything wrong so don't feel bad.
2006-12-05 16:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by pink girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i have to ask this, is ur free and wild self making u a bad influence on her. well maybe shes just really not into that and let the thought of being ur friend turn her into something just like u to please u. i know that sounds corny but i did that too when all my firend were cussing and i know thats wrong but i did it neways just to fit in. now maybe since her granddad died she realized lifes to short to try to be someone else
2006-12-05 16:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by anysportzchik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wel- you did nothin but your way of having fun is far the opposite than how she is. She's probably looking for different kinda friends now and that;'s just something you're gonna have t o deal with
2006-12-05 16:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is force yourself on someone who doesnt want to know you, whoever they are, it's bad for the soul. Hard as it is move on and continue to be yourself, you'll find people who want you for just that
2006-12-05 16:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋