I'm 27 yr old male, good-looking, good conversationalist, and athletic - who's trying to filter through life looking for a solid relationship with a woman that's based on love rather than just physical satisfaction. I know it seems hopeless and I may very well just yield to temptation and just screw around to fulfill my appetite. However, I'd really want something deeper and real. Am I asking for too much? Should I leave San Francisco? go somewhere else?
2006-12-05 08:26:49 · 7 answers · asked by Ebones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You fight it by remembering why you're fighting it in the first place... which you say is to have a solid relationship with a woman based on love rather than just physical satisfaction. My question is, how long do you reasonably expect to have a relationship with someone who merely fills your "appetite?" I ask this because realistically, you can have both. You won't start the relationship with love, but if other things are in place (including physical satisfaction) it would become love. Now, if you are trying have sex with just any woman who you KNOW you're not interested in having more with, than you won't get anything deeper. But, if you're seeing women who intrigue you and compliment you, then sex can/will soon follow and then you'll have what you're looking for.
2006-12-05 08:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for more than physical satisfaction then you have to get to know the person before starting a physical relationship and its a good thing, sometimes when you are looking there is nothing available and when you stop looking that special person comes along, why leave San Francisco you are only 27 you have time, women are the same where ever you go.
2006-12-05 16:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, you're in San Francisco and you can't find a good woman? Every woman I know in SF is always complaining that the good guys are all gay! LOL Stay in San Francisco, buddy!
In all seriousness, only you can decide what is right for you. I don't think it's wrong for you to occasionally have casual sex when you are not in a committed relationship as long as the woman knows what you want and you're not misleading her. But I'm not you. If you feel that having casual sex is a violation of your principles, God gave you two hands and I'm sure you know what to do with them.
And please don't marry the first woman who is remotely acceptable just to get regular sex!
2006-12-05 16:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u...im 28 and looking for the same thing (in a man). i dont think ur asking too much...u just havent met the right one yet. they say when ur looking u can never find it....so stop looking and just enjoy life. im trying to tell myself the same thing.
2006-12-05 16:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look ! many girls answering u ! look around , they are so many ... and many r good enough . remember we r not perfect , so accept things which r less than 100%. good luck
2006-12-05 16:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by arabwolfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen restraint is hard, but you will find the real thing eventually just keep looking.
2006-12-05 16:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave sf there are not enough of u there
2006-12-05 16:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋