I am getting married in june and my friend who was gonna be one of my brides maid's will be 7-8 months preg then! Should i still let her be a brides made i mean i love her but i want the attintion on me and him ya know and also i dont know if she wil be sick or any thing like that so let me know!
2006-12-05 08:07:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I personally won't want to be in any wedding if I was pregnant and I would understand if someone didn't want me in theirs. I would not want a VERY pregnant person in the wedding- it does draw attention off of the bride and it makes the pictures look terrible.
Sorry but bridesmaids dress are bad enough without a pregnant person being in one.
2006-12-05 08:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason you can't have a pregnant bridesmaid, and I don't see how that can distract attention from you - people always pay the most attention to the bride! And if you love her, you should be willing to take her as she is.
Ask your friend if she thinks she will be able to meet the physical demands of being a bridesmaid (standing for a long time, helping out behind the scenes, etc). Her morning sickness should be over by then, but many women suffer from high blood pressure or other ailments during their last few months. It may be more comfortable for her to sit in the audience instead. Offer to give her another special task that day so she doesn't feel left out - like giving a toast, singing a song, guiding the flower girls, etc.
2006-12-05 16:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged in Sept 05 and right away asked my friends to be in the wedding party. By the time the wedding came around 2 bridesmaids were pregnant (REALLY pregnant.) I 100% don't think the attention was taken away from my husband or I at all. In fact, in the end I thought it was kinda cute. Plus if she is sick and cannot make it...such is life. One of your other bridesmaids may GET pregnant, might break their leg and you just never know.
2006-12-05 19:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm well, is she married???? Are you getting married in a church? If you are I don't think she is allowed to be a bridesmaid anyway because of the church rules. YOu should check into that. If there are no rules that limit her, then yes you should let her stay in your wedding if she wants to. It shoud be up to her. THe attention will be on you NO matter what, that should be the last thing you worry about.
2006-12-05 16:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would do... I would ask tell her you want to make sure she's going to be comfortable and have the energy for such a big day. Give her an opportunity to back out. She'll be huge, and she might appreciate it. Otherwise, do not kick her out of the wedding party. All your guests are going to do is say "Oh, one of the bridesmaids is pregnant." That's it. The rest of the day is going to be about you and your new husband.
2006-12-05 16:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, frankly she may not really want to be standing up for a long time like in a wedding by that time anyway.
Tell her that you care about her alot and want her to be part of your wedding, but are not really sure that being a bridesmaid would be best for her at that time because of the strain it might put on her. Maybe the two of you can figure out a way for her to be involved that is fair to both of you
By the way, congratulations
2006-12-05 16:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious?? So what if one of your bridesmaids is going to be pregnant?? If she is a friend and you've already asked her to be in your bridal party, then you can't (in good taste) ask her to step down. If she can't handle it, then she will let you know. Just plan the wedding and keep everything like it has been...things will work out.
2006-12-05 16:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that your friend is feeling up to the responsibilities (both physical and financial), I see no reason why your friend can't be in the wedding party. Truthfully, I'm not sure why she'd want the burden. She probably has plenty of other things to deal with besides a bridal shower, dress fittings, bachelorette party, etc. Remember, she's the one doing you a favor by being in your wedding, not you doing her the favor by asking her to stand up. I would leave it up to her to see even if she still wants to be in the wedding. If she does, then so be it. Remember, the idea of your bridal party is to be surrounded by people who will love and support you through the wedding process, not by people who will look good in your pictures.
2006-12-05 16:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by SuzeY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went to 6 weddings this last year and 2 of them had pregnant bridesmaids and/or maids of honor. And how selfish are you that you would give up your friendship for the "spotlight". Everyone will remember what you looked like no matter who is in your wedding party. And if you already asked her how much do you want to hurt her feelings by telling he she can't be in it now because she is pregnant? Grow up.....
2006-12-05 16:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to have a conversation with that friend and let her know how you feel about the situation. She may even opt out of being a bridesmaid being that close to her due date.
2006-12-05 23:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by jeepy1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋