I've known for around 4-5 years that my brother is gay. We share an apartment together and he's left certain things out, or if I went hunting for a cigg I found gay porn snooping for cigs. I was really hurt when i initially found out but then came to the conclusion that I'll LOVE HIM thru anything an everything. My mother also suspects he's gay but she's too scared to say anything about it, and she's like me she's gonna Love Him REGARDLESS!! Years of no girlfriends and anyways we both kind of figured when he was ready to come out he'll come out and we would just let him come to us. But somebody told me it's best to tell him that we already know because he's living a personal hell all alone. So I decided to bring it to you guys and help me sort thru this! THANX!!!
2006-12-05 08:03:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah i would tell him, tell him just like you wrote, that you will love him regardless!!! Good Luck to you!!!
2006-12-05 08:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by boredgirl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about the subject, but it seems that it might be helpful to consult a counselor first just in case he has a negative reaction. He may be a bit defensive with you bringing it up first, and feel like he has to defend his position. I would definately get some advice from someone who is familiar with this kind of thing. Good luck, and good for you for being so open minded and loving your brother! There is enough hate in this world!
2006-12-05 16:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opion the fact that he is leaving hints around means that he does want you to bring it up. I think he is leaving the clues to see if you are okay with it and to get your reaction. Don't make a big deal of it. There is not need for a long drawn out thing. Just tell him you know the deal, you are okay with it, you love him regardeless, and when he wants to talk he can.
2006-12-05 17:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Creola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you've got to approach it carefully. Speaking as a gay guy myself I can tell you the hardest thing is telling your family and there's a definite fear of rejection there. But, as you've said, tell him you're going to love him regardless and just be nice and understanding about it. I mean he has to be at least aware you suspect anyway.
Good luck.
2006-12-05 16:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by Modern Jesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think is natural to tell him that you suspect him...after all you're brothers and you should have no secretes. I bet is kinda bothering but is your duty to do so. I keep my finger cross for you!
Been there , done that and it turned out just fine!
2006-12-05 16:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Adina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can if you want to get it off of your chest, but i doubt it will change how he feels.
2006-12-05 16:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋