so i have this boyfriend of 2 months. i'm going to be flat out honest. he does not have the back past, he's been with drugs, druggies and other things. he's really adorable, i'm pretty sure i love him, our first month was the worst relationship of my life. we couldn't go a week without breaking up and we rarley talked, but we hung out A LOT. our last break up was exactly a month from today. i broke up with him because i heard some rumors.... and then he went out with another girl because apparently he wanted to get me back. he says he loves me a lot, and we talk and hang out more. but something doesn't feel right... is there some free online phsycic thingy or whatnot that i could go to, to like tell me what the hell is wrong. or is there any signs i can look out for that tells me something... i'm confused... help :(
2006-12-05 07:59:51 · 29 answers · asked by Brandi// 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get out before its too late and your stuck, it sounds like your wasting time, find somebody else
2006-12-05 08:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW,
Sometimes the signs could not get any larger yet when you are to close you can't see the forest for the trees.
You have been dating for 2 months and been broken up for half of that them, he hangs with druggies, the only month you were together was the worst relationship of your life.
And yet you think you "Love" him?
Picture yourself with kids and 20 years down the road, imagine what kind of father and husband he will be, then dump him fast and move on.
Don't marry him, have kids and later when he is doing drugs, hanging out with his friends, not working, womanizing, leaving you to work, pay bills and raise kids by yourself ask "Why are all guys like this" or "Why are there no good men anymore"?
Take an objective look, and don't marry a project, marry a man.
Sorry to be so harsh!
Good Luck!
2006-12-05 16:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I think that you should go with your gut. Havent you ever heard that females have a better understanding about gut feelings. If it doesnt feel right, Most likely, it isnt. And Im not trying to be mean, so dont take offence by it. But if you guys are arguing that bad within the first two months, How bad will it be in a year? If you need to talk or have a shoulder to cry on, I get on this thing everyday.
2006-12-05 16:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon....he isnt worth it. no online psychic is going to help. you already know in your heart. listen to what you said, "not the best past, drugs, druggies, first mont h was the worst relationship in my life..."
sometimes girls are hoping that these 'bad boys' will change and that we will be the ones they change for.but they dont.
look at him for what he is. and you need to take a good look at yourself and decide why you are wasting time on this guy. i've been down this same route..learned the hard way and it took 6 years! Dont waste another second. hang out with some friends, do some things for yourself that make you feel good (go get your hair done, join a gym, etc....).
it doesnt feel right because its not right. listen to your heart....
2006-12-05 16:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dawni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, This is comming from a guy. TELL HIM TO TAKE A LONG WALK OF A SHORT PEIR!! There are many other guys out there that have better past and that would/could treat you better then this"guy". If you have been together only two months chances are that you don't love him and vis versa. With that much DRAMA in two months you need to find a different guy who is more matture and capable of being in a relationship!
2006-12-05 16:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, but, think what the 2 of u would look like if you cant even get along for 1 month, PLUS drugs and other ladies, if i was u i would tell him if he got off drugs and didn't c other women and tried to be more open or help u guys get along then go back 2 him.
2006-12-05 16:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Red Sea Of Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, everyone goes through this type of thing when they are first starting to date, your relativly young right? 7-11th grade? this is normal. think of this as a test run. Do you think its cool to see some 30 year old woman who is constantly breaking up with her boyfriend, and then goes back to him the next week because she loves him? she is not cool, you think she is stupid. and a bimbo.
Basically this is a time to grow, this is obviously not working, so we make changes that things work. This is just part of maturing. and if you stay with this, and do not realize that this is not working, this is not what you want in your life, then you will repeat this over and over again. That is not life. Move on and find something that works
2006-12-05 16:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Scotty D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need friend to talk with. Doing drugs and drinking is not a problem if they can be control. But the question is who can control when they are under the influnce of drug and acholoice. You can answer that. Love is blind, so you love him, yet something is wrong. You want him, but you want to break up with him. So you ask yourself what you want. Happiness is something that he can and cannot give. So my whole email is yes and no. That is not helping, so who is going to help you. YOU are going to help YOURSELF. You need to accept who he is or change your standard in your heart. Because you love him for sure, but can you live with crying every other day or so?
I love a girl, but we aren't dating. Not that I haven't try nor the family doesn't approve. It just that I let go and pursue happiness somewhere else. You can to.
2006-12-05 16:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you should move on. If you had problems from the beginning just picture it how i'ts going to be in future. If he says he does love you he wouldn't be acting this way. But then again it's up to you... Do you want to continue living this life? Or do you want to move on? I know you can move on. Life isn't going to end just because some jerk made you feel horrible for a couple of months. Be strong and believe you can do it. If you choose to stay, then it's up to both of you to make the relationship work. It takes TWO, to make it work. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 16:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Morena461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you don't say how old you are, but with that kind of history, I would say you're already headed for trouble in that relationship. I would head for the door as fast as possible and don't look back. I know that's not always an easy thing to do, but believe me, it's a lot easier than living a life with someone that will make your life miserable.
2006-12-05 16:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life it's okay to make emotional decisions. Sometimes it's far better to make logical decisions. This guy, as cute as he may be, doesn't sound like a good bet. Do you want to tie your future to someone who doesn't have one?
If he's completely shaken his past lifestyle, then maybe things are okay. But if he's still doing drugs and is a bad influence for you, you can find other boys.
2006-12-05 16:03:36 · answer #11 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋