I was living with my ex for around a year when we split and I've missed him terribly. While the ex and I were separated, I started seeing someone new who happens to be one of the owners of the company I work for. My ex recently came back into the picture and we want badly to work things out. I truly care about the man I am seeing now but really want to work things out with the ex. What is the best way to handle this situation and break the news to my current guy without creating an incredibly akward work environment. The current guy and I work together often throughout the day and I do not want to hurt him because I know he cares a lot for me - but I want to be fair to him and not lead him on.
What do I do?
2006-12-05 07:54:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My job is incredibly important to me and I just bought my first house therefore I can, in no way, afford for this to turn out badly.
2006-12-05 07:56:34 · update #1
Don't burn bridges at work or at home. You never know when you may need to cross them again.
If you are serious, very serious, about working things out with your ex, I would tell the new guy and the old guy the truth. Let them know that you are conflicted with the current situation. You either need time or space or both. That way you can at least get a clearer picture of what you want to do. If either understand (truely understand) then there should not be a problem. Don't do anything and you are bound to piss one of them off and that is a big bridge burner.
2006-12-05 08:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by march s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would sit down and let the current guy know that you care about him but you need to try and make your relationship the ex work. Let him know that what you guys had was special but your not being fair to him or the ex because you still have feleing for the ex. Let him know that your not going to stop being friends but the relationship between you 2 have to stop to give an honest start at the ex. Let the current guy know that youve given this alot of thought and you wanted to tell him before you did anything with tthe ex so that he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that you werent leading him on. Being that you work together that might be hard at first but you have to go where your heart tells you....Good Luck
2006-12-05 08:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rubens Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can only turn out one way... Badly... Your best bet is to change jobs because your workplace will never be the same and you'll always have an awkward feeling there... Sadly you broke the first rule of dating, which is never under any circumstance date a boss or co-worker... it never works out unless you marry them...
and this is a worst case situation as the guy is a co-owner...
You being fair with this guy will definitely cause hurt, he may not show it, but believe me it will be there no matter what he says...
Take this as a lesson in life and move on with your career elsewhere... If you stay where you are there will always be tension or worst...
2006-12-05 08:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe an ex is an ex for a reason. Always move forward not backwards, ask yourself why it did not work the first time round, does he just want you now you have a house?
2006-12-05 08:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had unresolved feelings about your ex and weren't up front with the new guy...you already have been leading him on. if you want to avoid an awkward work environment...get a new job. sorry, but there's no easy way out of this one...don't screw around where you eat, it's always a messy situation.
2006-12-05 07:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Calli G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. Talk to him and move to another department or change your job. This happen and that is why management don't want dating in the same department because once you break up, trouble will arise. Just leave and start fresh.
2006-12-05 07:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually ex's are ex's for a reason. If the new guy is great, why let him go? Don't try to go back to what you had before. Your old relationship sounds like its doomed to fail again.
2006-12-05 07:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kyle Petty?!! You hafta be kidding. additionally, I submit to in innovations Mark Martin a pair years in the past asserting that 0.5 the boys on the song don't have a license topersistent, no longer to mentionpersistent in NASCAR. additionally, somebody fairly suggested Stewart, lmao. i could could decide on Carl Edwards, Burton, Kahn.
2016-10-04 22:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lexy is right! He is an ex for a reason. Seriously think about why he is an ex and seriously think about going back to that!
2006-12-05 07:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you shouldnt date someone if you still have feelings for someone else in the first place and will it even work again? theres a reason you two broke up!
2006-12-05 07:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋