how do i get the trust that i need to feel if there's no way for us to see eachothr? we have been living a long distance realtionship for 2+yrs. and he has never ever trusted me
2006-12-05 07:43:54 · 30 answers · asked by Turtle Cow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats rediculous, my bf and I have been in a long distance 2.5 out of our 3 year relationship (hes in the military), and he has trusted me the whole time, but he has gotten a little jealous a couple of times. He tells me that he trusts me with all his heart, its just that he doesnt trust other guys. So maybe thats whats bothering him, its not you he doesnt trust, he doesnt trust other guys around you. Guys are alot bigger and stronger than we are, and could easily take advantage of us if they wanted to. But if it is you that he cant trust, then there is something wrong, and you should, if you already havent, ask him why he thinks he cant trust you. He might be insecure about the relationship bc maybe in previous relationship he was cheated on and feels that its goin to happen to him again. Just talk to him and try to get to the bottom of it. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 07:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by gremlin1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay there is a little saying that the way a person judges is the way the person lives. So if he doesn't trust you it could be that he is guilty and feels your doing something wrong also. It is hard for long distance relationships to work because your both bound to meet people. A relationship is based on trust, and if he doesn't trust you then your relationship just really isn't one. Good luck!
2006-12-05 07:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by razzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that those who don't trust cannot be trusted. I have had boyfriends who were jealous who I found out later were cheating, I've had girlfriends who I knew were cheating, they would tell me, who didn't trust me with thier guys.
People project thier mindset onto other people.
The other thing with jealousy and is it can be used as a tool to control you, usually by men who are insecure and need to get powered up by being abusive of thier girlfriends.
My question to you is - what are you getting from this relationship? Is it worth it being in a long distance relationship and to be treated like you are a sl_t? I don't usually say this in my answers, but I think you might want to consider taking a good hard look at why you are in this relationship at all.
Best wishes!
2006-12-05 07:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling guilty because he is untrustworthy- that is one thing about long distance realtionships=- and he has an issue w trust- or maybe he was cheated on before- but dont tell him that part- you may be giving him an excuse to use= take care-D
2006-12-05 07:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all from my experience he is never going to trust you.....and the reason you are getting blamed for cheating is mostly because he may be the one cheating. Loong distance relationships never work and this is the reason. You can't have a relationship if there isn't any trust there.....i would can the guy!
2006-12-05 07:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships never work. The reason why is because you never see eachother so of course he and you is going to have ideas about cheating. You should take a vacation to go see him and talk and hangout. You know if you don't have trust you don't have anything.
2006-12-05 07:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Mamii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are only capable of seeing what they are - in others. One who can't be trusted, sees untrustworthiness in others. A thief is constantly paranoid about his things being stolen, and so forth. Here's a link to an interesting article about fidelity, trust, etc. not at all a typical perspective.
2006-12-05 07:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he does not trust you and you two never see each other he is either cheating on you, or he thinks that you are cheating on him. Either way its bad news for you both.
2006-12-05 07:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by catastrophy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust takes honest face to face communication, at least for me.
Even when there is good reason to trust, I often still can't. I guess its from my own insecurities and knowing what I would like to do and would if society permitted it. And if it made sense emotionally.
2006-12-05 07:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just had bad experiences in his past. you need to find out what's causing him to distrust you. he could have been hurt in the past and never gotten over the pain, or learned to trust. it's not true that he's accusing because that's what he's doing, that's an immature statement. next time you see him, y'all need to sit down and discuss this problem. good luck!
2006-12-05 07:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋