I met this guy from out of town the beginning of Novembe. We had a blast together for a week and he extended his stay for 2 extra days. When he went back home I only recieved 2 text messages form him that were brief and the last text I sent him saying hope to hear from you soon he never responded. 2 weeks past and he called me this Saturday apologizing saying he lost his phone. I had asked everyone on here and they said he was probably married or had a gf so I told him that and he said absolutley not and he wants me to fly out next weekend to see and stay with him. He has been calling me like crazy I think since I blew him out on the not calling thing but I don't know what to do.I told him I am not going to fly out for a booty call I could get that here and he said it wasn't like that at all that he really wanted to see me. Should I go see him?
2006-12-05 07:43:07 · 32 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not you have nothing to loose. If you want tell him if he wants you to come so badly maybe he can pay for part of your ticket.
2006-12-05 07:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could of generally lost your phone number and you could be missing out on a good thing.
If he had a girlfriend or wife he would be trying to go there where you are, instead of wanting you to go to him.
You could also check out his surroundings and may be meet some of the people he hangs around and like you said you don't just want it to be a booty call. Take the time to get to know him.
Even if he had, or has, a girlfriend before he met you he might of been trying to get things settled with her before being able to starting another relationship with you making sure he is all free and clear.
but you got to trust your own instincts and do as you feel like you have to do no matter what anyone elts says
2006-12-05 07:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you only have a cell phone number for him? Red flag. He should give you his home number as well ... if he's not married.
Did he tell you where he works and can you call him there? No? Red flag.
Do you have his home address? No? Red flag. Why wouldn't he give that information to you, unless he is hiding something.
Do a google search for his name. You do have his last name, right? Did you see it on any documents like an ID or bank card or anything, so you know he isn't lying? Check the guy out.
Better safe than sorry. I have known women who stayed with guys and had sex with them, only to find out later that the bum was married and just using them.
If this guy is for real.... make him prove it before you spend your money (or is he willing to pay for it?) on a plane ticket and waste your own valuable time.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-05 07:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to see you that badly maybe he should book his own plane ticket and stay in a HOTEL near you for the weekend. I would never take a flight to anyone that I don't know that well - people are different when they're on vacation. Hope this helps.
2006-12-05 07:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by jjnitro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a wild week where you both were swept into a romantic relationship. He doesn't call and you didn't hear from him for 2 weeks. I think he wants to take advantage of you, and I wouldn't buy any plane ticket to go and see him. If he wants to see you he will come to you.
2006-12-05 07:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by bobbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think in something, why does he didnt call you in 2 weeks?
This relationship if it begins, will be a long distnace one...
Think if you are preared for that..
I suggest not to go, and if you want you can keep in contact with him and meet him again later...
If you decide to go and is a mistake you hve nothing to do.. you waste your time. But if you decide not to go and is a mistake you could go there whenever you want! Think about. If this was a math problem you shold not go. But is up to you. Heart think different than brain...
2006-12-05 07:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by NES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's paying for it I'd say go for it. On one hand, do you think he'd tell you if he had a wife if he really is having an affair? On the other, he probably wouldn't spend that much money on just a booty call.
2006-12-05 07:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Make him come to you or make him meet you 1/2 way between. You will be "out of your element" traveling to see him for what may be a possibly good or a very bad weekend. You call the shots and you can control the weekend a little more than jetting out on his whim to see him.
2006-12-05 07:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why doesn't he fly to you? The man is supposed to go to the woman...not the other way around...at least not in the beginning...
I wouldn't buy the ticket...nor fly out there unless he is paying for the ticket...
Stay home... Its not cool to ask a girl to come to you...
Good luck...
2006-12-05 07:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call....He really could have lost his phone.....If he wants you to come see him and stay with him chances are he doesn't have a girlfriend or wife...but are you sure you know him well enough to go there and stay with him??? There are some cooks in the world....Trust your gut instincts on this one....If you have ANY doubt at all, don't do it....
2006-12-05 07:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No tell him to come to you, if he says no then tell him too bad and this really does sound like a booty call, if its not like that he will come and since he wants you to come there that means he really doesn't have a wife or girlfriend but if he don't come to you then he just ain't worth it good luck with your decision tho!!!!
2006-12-05 07:49:43 · answer #11 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋