My neice loves anything Disney or Pixar. I can barely get my kid to sit still long enough to watch baby einstien videos. but I like it that way. I don't want him getting hooked on TV or useing it as a babysitter. I would much rather he follow me around the house or play with his toys. How do I tell my sister that without soundling like i am calling her a bad parent for letting Ry watch tv all the time? Oh by the way my son is 15 months and she is 16 months. And my sis is always acting like something is wrong with Ike or me as a parent because he dosent watch tv?
2006-12-05 07:26:09 · 13 answers · asked by rose_calhoun23 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just tell your sis that your children are different. Some kids like TV, some don't. They'll all watch it sooner or later. Many girls in our group of friends watched movies at the same age as your son. My son would watch a Baby Einstein for like 10 minutes - tops. Engage your kid - and hers. Show her the benefits of the "other side."
2006-12-05 08:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...you are not a bad parent and neither is she. Yes I don't agree that her child should be hooked on TV at 16 months. Her child will have a very unexciting childhood. No child benefits from hours in front of the TV, especially at that age. My son is 3 years old this week, he only watches 2 shows, Go Diego Go and Dora the Explorer. I am studying Spanish and teaching him as I go. So the shows are really fun for him. He doesn't get into any other shows.
I don't think it is bad for your child to like 1 or 2 shows, but more than that you are really not doing a service to your child.
I suggest you start planning outings with your sister and the children. I have never heard a child who didn't love the park. It also gives them a chance to interact with other children and learning to share and take turns. There are so many outside activities you can suggest. If you sister prefers not to go, ask her if you can take your neice with you when you go. Your neice will adore you.
Good luck
2006-12-05 07:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Summer H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I agree with you, it so much healthier for the children to be running around playing and exercising than learning how to be a couch potato. Just tell her, that she has her parenting style and you have yours, there is nothing wrong with either, and neither makes the other a so-called "bad parent" and sometimes, it is not the parenting style, it is the personal preference of the child. I have six children, they will all watch Sesame Street and Dora, but as for watching all day, there are two that will watch off and on, one that watches only those two shows, and the other three prefer to be outside all day (no matter th weather). Though it it storming one will find all in front of the TV watching videos. I did not teach them one way or the other, I put the TV on Cartoons and leave it there all day because I am not a TV watcher, so sometimes I think genetics plays a part in the children's preference.
2006-12-05 07:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do it your way. You are a good mother. I have had the same problems with my family, they all watched TV, so I would give in little by little, now my son only wants to watch TV. I miss him and mommy now is never more important than Nemo, The cars movie, or Bob the Builder. I wish I could change it all. I think I'll just unplug the TV and say it is broken. Hey good idea!!! Even my sons grandparents both sets let all of the kids watch TV. You are a good mother, keep baby einstein on occasionally and keep him playing.
2006-12-05 07:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Serious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you live with her or does he stay there while you work?
Why don't you just turn off the tv and get the little girl interested in something?
Out of my 4, only one could sit and watch anything for more than 15 minutes until they hit about 6 - and it's still a crap shoot if they will then. I'm the same way. I watch 3 shows a week....
2006-12-05 07:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its pretty bad her child is 16 months and already hooked to the tv. that there looks like she is using the tv so she doesnt have to take care of her child. I would just tell her nicely that you dont want your son to watch tv all the time, you rather him play with toys, or hang out with you. I commend you on not making your kid a tv addict
2006-12-05 07:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you are glad he doesn't watch TV all that much. It's something you dont want your child completely hooked on.
However remember this could change and as he gets older he could start to enjoy TV. Don't make too much of a fuss over it. It's not worth arguing over.
2006-12-05 07:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I told my son never to hit a woman. His girl tried to punch him in the face (albeit, he deserved it but that's another story). He blocked the punch and restrained her until he could leave. So secondly what you have to do is make sure your son can fight. My son boxed, wrestled, and took martial arts from 5 to 15. There is no way you are going to just be in argument and just get punched in the face without being able to avoid that if you can fight. He was taught, and so was I by my father, that you do not hit women. We are the stronger sex physically and we can restrain (most) women without having to harm them. Actually, the message you send to them by doing that is a lot stronger than whooping they azz. You send a message that you respect them even though you and her are angry with each other. I taught my son you would rather have a woman respect you than fear you. Thats what my father taught me.
2016-05-22 21:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to speak with your sister about this, and not just about how you prefer you son not watch tv. Does she realize her daughter is way too young to be watching tv? Children who watch tv before the age of 2 tend to have eye problems and attention problems such as ADD and ADHD. And not to mention, teaching her child it's okay to watch tv which could lead to childhood obesity later on.
You need to confront her. She needs to realize that her child isn't old enough to be watching television and that there are healthier ways to teach and entertain her daughter.
2006-12-05 07:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter how you say it, any comparison between kids usually will sound like a criticism of one of the parents. I'd stay clear from the topic, but if she really is mentioning it a lot go ahead and say what you think. But you know sparks will fly.
2006-12-05 07:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Julian A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋