My daughter had lived with me for 2 years and 1 month... she knows me as her mom it has been 10 months of hell. I cannot function, I made a very bad decision all because i could not provide for her.. I have worked hard to survive and I am now at a position where I can care for her well, I have kept in contact with the parents all along and the agency knows I want her back. Now I havbe the money to fight.... someone tell me how, I have made a horrible mistake and I cannot live without my little angel .. please help.
2006-12-05 07:18:36 · 12 answers · asked by Ana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Most states have a time frame, parents can change their minds within 6 or 12 months... I would talk to a lawyer, find out what steps you need to take, and file the paperwork needed to go to court. You do need to realize that this will not be an easy fight. As far as the court can tell, you gave your daughter away once, so you'll have to prove that you aren't going to do that again. It will be hard, battling for your rights, but it can be done IF THE TIME FRAME HAS NOT EXPIRED. There are laws in place, you need to find out which ones apply to your state and situation. Good luck.
2006-12-05 07:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Franky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've already had your parental rights terminated, there is nothing you can do. I'm so sorry to hear how hard this is for you. Maybe you can ask the adoptive family for visitations and the opportunity to still be part of her life. Surely they can understand or imagine how you are feeling. They might be sensative to it. I hope you can find peace and happiness in this somehow. Give yourself a lot of credit though. You say you feel like this was a stupid decision, but to me, I can see you were trying to do what was the best thing for her. That takes untold amounts of love and selflessness. Hopefully your daughter grows up knowing that you love her enough to have made such a great sacrifice. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 07:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you. I know this has to hurt.
I know you think of your daughter importantly since you chose to give her up for adoption, please think of her still and let her remain settled in her new home. Ask the family about visiting rights, perhaps something can be worked out if you are kind and flexible.
Then save some money, make sure you life is straightened out, make sure you are in a good permanent - marriage - relatioship and start over. You will never replace your first child, but you can use that experience to do things better the second time.
Alternatively, you may choose to adopt, and give the gift of love to another child who really needs you.
2006-12-05 09:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has no interest in progression a courting with you. that is not any longer to assert she is purely no longer in contact contained in the destiny yet for now i imagine that is time to diminish backpedal and provides you her some respiration area. have you ever tried absolutely asking her what she needs? you need to be prepared to settle for her answer also. If she has informed you earlier to now that she would not opt for to construct a courting with you and also you've lengthy gone ahead and compelled your self into her existence any way then for sure she is going to locate it puzzling to forgive you. convinced you've theory that you change into doing the right element with the aid of giving her up for adoption yet that would not advise she has no proper to be mad or envious because you theory it change into for the suited.
2016-11-23 18:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So 1st you can't take care of her, now you can, what if you get her back and decide you can't take care of her anymore, are you going to put her up for adoption again??? I would leave things alone, this is a child you are talking about, not an animal. Make sure you are on birth control as well.
2006-12-05 07:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by STRAY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the US if the adoption is final then that's it. She is not your daughter anymore. It would be like trying to get custody of your neighbors kid. Your daughter is in a better situation, you did the right thing. Ya it hurts, but it's not about your feelings it's about your daughter's best interest.
I am sorry for your pain, I suggest you move on
2006-12-05 21:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's also the little angel of her adoptive parents who probably are extremely attached to her. Just food for thought. You might be able to conceive again but the adoptive parents may have been trying for years and years to get a child. If the birthmother tried to take back my child, they would have one helluva court battle.
2006-12-05 07:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have one year to change your mind, it is the law, and the agency is putting you off for this time limit to be expired, your time is now, get a lawyer and have it reversed, you only have two months left.
2006-12-05 07:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can do it. I wish you luck.. Get a lawyer.. But also, think of how you are hurting your daughter. She was used to you, you gave her away. Now she is used to the new parents, and knows them. And you want to take that away. Also, think of how they will feel about it all. That is going ot HURT them so bad.
2006-12-05 07:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by eh77530 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its only been that short of time u should be able to get her back but u having alot of proving to the courts that u can care for her
2006-12-05 07:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋