this can't be right?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been torn apart I was taken from my family and everything to live with my mom whom I've never known my whole life because I got pregnant were both way too younge for personally reasons an abortion was not done, and as much as I do not believe in it I am sooo younge I was willing to go outside of my morals. I am 18 weeks this week, I can still have one, but I'm so far now I know I won't come out of it alright. I look at sites of abortion all the time though. With my boyfriend so far away I just need a phone call everynight to support me mentally financially is all delt with. He can't even seem to do that but I love him so much killing this baby is killing me and him in one person but he's too busy smoking pot and not going to school he cried and told me he didn't want me to have an abortion that was weeks ago and since than nothings better he doesn't call when he says he will. I call him everynight tho, even if he doesn't answer.

Answer 1

regardless of your decision (on abortion) you need to take care of yourself first! If he's still smoking pot and not being responsible what else is it going to take before you realize he won't/can't change?! If he loved you that much he'd be there for your every step of the way. Men will walk to the end of the earth for women, but yours can't even lay off the drugs? Is this who you want to raise a child and grow old with? Rethink your priorities. You need to worry about yourself first!

Answer 2

He is extremely scared too. He is facing the pressures of being a father while until now he doesn't know any responsibility. To accept this role means to discard everything he knows and lose what he thinks is freedom. Although this isn't really the case it is in his head.

Let him know how much of a difference just the small act of a phone call can make with you. But during the conversation try not to treat him like a crutch. Just enjoy his presence for some time then move on. If he feels clingged to it may make him uncomfortable. Also you should accept that others will be better fit to help you at this time. He may come around but it may take some time. A father is important to the child.
Support his supporting you and be brave.

Answer 3

I know that this hurts. What you need to do is sit down and have a converstaion with yourself. If he is too busy being high, than he doesn't get a say in this. You need to really think and do what you feel is right. If you think that you can handle it, you should consider adoption. There are many people that want to care for a baby so badly. Try calling around to different pregnancy care centers in your area. They will help you find out everything about your choices and even offer counseling. You made a grown up choice by having sex, so now it's time to have a grown up conversation with yourself. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You have decided to have the baby. Stay with that decision. The baby will soon love you more than anybody can. In the meantime don't bother with the father. Meet the challenge and grab the responsibility head on. You can do it. and be proud later on that even if you were young biologically, you were still strong to be mature morally and spiritually. Have courage and guts.

Answer 5

I would never kill my baby....its not the baby's fault.. I had a miscarriage, and it was sooooooo hard on me, i felt like it was all my fault, and i blamed myself for it, So i think if u really want this baby, then you should have it.. No woman needs a man for anything, if he wants to be a loser for the rest of his life then let him, just worry about yourself, and your baby......stress isnt good during pregnancy, so just worry about keeping yourself healthy... and when you have your baby, you will be sooo happy, and you'll love your baby soo much!!