My boyfriend is so kissy! It sounds kinda funny but it really is frustrating. We'll be watching a movie and he wants to totally make out all the time. I'm ok with a peck on the lips a lot but I don't want to have a make out session every time I'm with him. and besides that, I'm sorry if this is gross, but he uses his tongue on the sides of my lips and it's like he's trying to lick the outside of my mouth. GROSS. how do I tell him? He hasn't gotten it from me showing him. Or do I just deal with it?
2006-12-05 07:11:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to chill out with it. If you don't feel comfortable then whats the problem??
*With the bad kissing part, you need to retrain him on kissing! There is no way around that, he's not magically going to learn to kiss better..
Good luck to you!
2006-12-05 07:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, without critisizing. If you really like him and want to be with him, except for this kissy thing, then be open and honest. There is a time and place for the heavy duty stuff, and it is NOT everywhere and all the time. Guys sometimes get mixed up about what is romantic, gently tell him that you don't like this form of kissing and show him what you do like. You will both be happier.
2006-12-05 15:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him gently. Tell him that you want to take the lead for the night. Direct him on how to do what you like. When he sees how much better you react to that, he'll change his ways. Plus, try telling him to grow up a little and try talking instead of making out all the time!
2006-12-05 15:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. If you dont tell him about this now then the likelyhood of him being embarassed or offended will increase seeing as you let him do it so long. Do not be purely critical though, be proactive and come up with something new for you two to do (but not all the time!)
2006-12-05 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, but he on the other hand has a problem. He want you in bed. So there is no easy wat to tell him, so just talk with him. That is the best way. Otherwise whenever you go out, bring extra friends. then he can't kiss you that long or as often as he want in a group. That is the body languages and it doesn't work good with men. Just talk.
2006-12-05 15:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has different boundaries. If this is a potential mate, you'd better get it out in the open now. Why should you be made to feel uncomfortable?? If he loves you, he should respect you and love means you want the best for the other person. You want their happiness.
2006-12-05 15:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. You are not the only girl that feels this way. Occasionally is okay but you dont want him eating your tonsils at every kiss. Good luck.
2006-12-05 15:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you like kissing, but maybe take it slower and savor it more. Buy, "The art of kissing" by William Cane. Read it together and maybe you'll rediscover the joy of it. I understand your PDA phobia, but if you don't tell him you're not into his kissing style then how will he know what you like?! Good luck!
2006-12-05 15:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel because if you just pull away from him he may get the idea that you dont like him-- not just his kisses. Just explain how making out isnt your thing. Show him other things that turn you on.
2006-12-05 15:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most of us think that girls like kissing more, but there are exceptions. You should be honest with him, in a pleasant way, but do it when you aren't kissing. Maybe you could start a conversation about what each of you like and dislike,and slip it in there.
2006-12-05 15:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Dizzle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋