So long story short..dated the love of my life for almost four years and had a child (beatiful little girl). He cheated on me with a younger girl and basically stopped coming around to see his daughter because of her. Now he wants to marry her and whatever and let me tell you I found out through her when she came by to drop money he owed me. Not a good way to find out considering we broke up this past August for the last time. We had been messing around and he was telling me one thing then telling her one thing..only I was the one he came to when his life would get bad or hard for him to deal with. But back to my question..I told him today that I want nothing to do with him or his girlfriend and to stay away from me and our daughter. He chooses his gf over our daughter all the time and hasn't seen her in a month and hasn't paid consistantly. Is she going to hate me later? Am I just being selfish and thinking only of myself even though he hasn't really been there for her?
2006-12-05 07:06:50 · 3 answers · asked by MLP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still love him and a part of me wants our family back. I think our daughter deserves that, but she just keeps coming around and won't let it be everytime he breaks up with her. But then he goes back all the time no matter what she does to our family and him.
2006-12-05 07:10:31 · update #1
We were engaged to be married when she came along and its been a mess since then! This is all within a year...our daughter is only 19 months old.
2006-12-05 07:15:39 · update #2
My other problem is his parents do I allow her to see them? Even though he won't be a part of her life? I am really confused and to be honest scared as to what he will do if I am not around...I don't know.
2006-12-05 07:48:20 · update #3
Oh honey! I just went through sort of the same thing. What your daughter needs is a happy stable home. If that means that her father and this ***** have to stay away, then that's it. Just keep an open mind to letting him see her later. He may not hate you for keeping him away, but she might when she gets older. Good Luck with everything!
2006-12-05 07:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the emotions run deep.....but you can't deny the father...Sorry. I completely understand how you are feeling.... you feel victimized, used , let down & betrayed. But you guys weren't married so... you can't really claim him. Get child support orders going and let the courts help your lil' girl out.
2006-12-05 15:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all any guy that has a kid and is not man enough to take care of it and be responsible isnt even a real man he is just a punk. And if he dosn't want to pay money, take him to court and force it on him, remember he ditched you and your baby you didnt ditch him.
2006-12-05 15:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by armorefelix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋