please don't bash me about this i feel horrible enough already but.. the other night (my birthday weekend) i was hanging out with a bunch of my friends and we left to go to the bars. my boyfriend didnt come because he was in a bad mood so a bunch of us went without him. after the bars we went back to one of the kids' house and kept drinking and playing cards and stuff. eventually everyone left and i was all "im gonna drink all night!" cause it was my birthday. so i stayed at the kids house and kept drinking and playing games with him and our other friend. eventually the kid whos house it was went to bed and me and my one friend kept playing and drinking just the two of us. this friend is also a roommate of my boyfriends (who i was ABOUT to go on a break with.. we were waiting till after my birthday was over, but it was all planned) and was angry at him for telling HIS ex girlfriend about girls he had been seeing since they broke up. anyway.. after the tequila was gone we were talking.. i was sitting on one couch and he was sitting on another and out of nowhere he got up, grabbed my face, and kissed me. i was shocked to say the least (didnt see it coming at all) and told him i couldnt kiss him. i dont know what happened from there (its all very fuzzy..no excuse though..) but somehow we wound up going at it on the couch. we started to have sex but i stopped it in the middle and went to bed. i broke up with my boyfriend the next day but i've been in turmoil every since. should i tell him??
2006-12-05 07:02:14 · 26 answers · asked by blknailpolish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You broke up anyway, why add insult to injury. Just be more careful next time you drink. You could have put yourself in a bad situation, by drinking and not remembering. Heard of several girls wishing the could take nights like that back. Drink responsibly.
2006-12-05 07:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should you tell him, you are not with him anymore and this incident is not the reason. What happened is not his business as far as you are concerned, however, if the guy is his friend and/or roommate then he should fess up. Don't make yourself guilty and cause yourself turmoil, you did not do anything wrong and you can't cheat on someone you already left. Take care and God bless.
2006-12-05 07:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually people do that because there is something real wrong in your relationship and your making things happen without even knowing it to end it. If you cheat there is a 90% chance that the person will dump you and it makes things neater that way. Really look at your relationship. He didnt want to spend your birthday with you...that should tell you something.
2006-12-05 07:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lyssa B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
It happened while you were still together. He has a right to know.
Besides, you are still calling him your boyfriend.....so regardless of whether or not you broke it off with him you still consider him your boyfriend on some level.
Face the music and get it off your chest, you'll feel better that you did. It WILL hurt him, but he deserves the truth.
2006-12-05 07:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on trying to get back with him you should definitely tell him. Either way he has a right to know the real reason you broke up with him.
2006-12-05 07:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by socorro0745 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does this kid and tour boy friend talk or run in the same circle? If so you should tell him before he finds out through someone else. If they don't then don't tell him.1.you've already broken up.2. the old saying"what you dont know wont hurt you" is sooo true3.learn from your mistakes and move on.
2006-12-05 07:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by no expert but... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 02:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, the "I was drunk and it's all fuzzy" excuse is lame.
And yes, you should feel guilty ad you should tell him.
The relationship may be over but at least have some character.
2006-12-05 07:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you already broke up with him, he deserves the truth. It may not lead you to getting back together but it will make you feel better not haivng that over your head.
2006-12-05 07:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ember B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would you hope to accomplish by telling him? He's your ex now - you don't owe each other anything. Get on with your life. Move on and learn from your lessons (like what can happen when you drink too much).
2006-12-05 07:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by c_a_cudmore 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋