i love him, but my friends tell me to leave, and he keeps telling me he wants help im so unsure what to do.
2006-12-05 06:58:17 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him. He will never stop or get help. Get out before it's too late.
2006-12-05 07:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, telling you he's sorry and needs help AFTER he hits you is a classic sign of an abuser. I would bet if you were to talk to his exes they will tell you they have been down that same road with him before. I doubt if you are the first girl he has ever hit. There is nothing you could have done to deserve that from any man. You should listen to your friends on this because they are the ones who care about you. You need to realize that there is a big difference between him SAYING he needs help and actually getting it. If you would have said he made an appointment for help and actually went after the first time he hit you, then maybe he would have a chance at not doing it again. But him SAYING he needs help is just buying time and his way back into your good graces!
2006-12-05 15:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by mys_terrious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hitting you and then says he wants help? Has he gone somewhere to get that help he says he wants? I think you should leave before he hits you another time and kills you. I was watching a TV show about men in jail... this guy swore he didn't need to be in prison for murder because he only hit her once and she dropped to the ground dead. Yes he does need to be there and so does your boy friend. If you are afraid to leave him, get your stuff and go when he isn't home. If you don't live with him tell your parents or a friend and the police that he has been hitting you and you are trying to leave him but are afraid what he will do to you. Me personally I wouldn't date a guy that hit me to begin with but if one did, I would beat the living sh*t out of the SOB and call the police and tell them where he was and that they could have whatever was left. There would be no way in hell I would let anyone hit on me and think it was OK to do it. Get help!
2006-12-05 15:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months is early to be hitting your girlfriend. If you really love him and are sure he wants help, get him help. Make him see a someone to talk to. There are lots of organisations that can help. But i do think it should be time to leave because you need to ask yourself why is he hitting you, you must know your are worth more.
2006-12-05 15:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by yasmineloy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave,leave,leave! If a man loved you he would never hit you! ,and they always say 'sorry' when their finished and that it will ''never happen again'', It will! Don't be fooled into thinking that he will stop, and things will go back to the way they were .
You deserve someone how loves you and who wont use you as a punching bag.
2006-12-05 15:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all no man should hit a woman but tell him that he needs to stop or its over and if he really loves you he would get help
2006-12-05 15:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your gut instinct telling you to do? NEVER under estimate what your instinct is telling you, because this is such a basic but wonderful tool.
it is your life and your choice, do you have faith in this man changing his ways? if so you know the answer , if not how long and how much are you going to take?
i wish you all the best in the world from someone who knows and has been on the receiving end of an aggressive man.
2006-12-05 15:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by julie knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him. Next time he hits you tell him its okay. Ask him if he wants breakfast. Go to the kitchen fix some eggs, bacon and oatmeal or grits. When the oatmeal or grits begin to bubble serve immediately to whatever part of the body you can reach.
Don't be anyone's punching bag, no matter how "sorry" they really are. And they are "sorry".
2006-12-05 15:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and tell him to get help. if he gets the help he needs then you could consider dating again, but he will not get better while you are still together.
just imagine yourself a few years down the line if you have kids having to explain why daddy hit's mummy! and then think if this i really the best that you can do?
2006-12-05 15:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes hitting you after only 7 months,whats it going to be like after a year? will it be trips to the casualty dept? what about if you stay with him and have children, will it be ok for him to hit them too,and still be promising to get things fixed. i think you have some serious decisions to make.why don't you let him go?maybe that way you can safeguard your own and any future childrens lives. all the best!
2006-12-05 15:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by milopoo2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋