Should I christian obtain a divorce strictly on the grounds tehy are not happy anymore? No adultery. no abuse..just becuase they arent happy?? OR are they supposed to stay married until death?
2006-12-05 06:48:56 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"til death do us part"
However when that vow was instituted, the average life span was 23yrs old for males.
God detests divorce.
2006-12-05 07:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♫O Praise Him♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are supposed to stay married.
Probably a more productive avenue than staying in a horrible relationship or giving up on the marriage would be to reconcile differences and communicate toward a better relationship.
If you dont consider divorce an option and then go from there looking for good solutions you are a lot more apt to find reasonable and biblical solutions.
Are you familiar with the story of Hosea? What do you think his answer would have been for you?
2006-12-05 06:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by aarondarling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sought counselling and have tried to make the marriage work a couple of times, then you may have a case. I hate people throwing away marriage, but suspect they weren't in it for the long haul and didn't understand the commitment. Marriage is not a band-aid solution for relationship problems. It won't make everything better.
As for women and men who stay in bad relationships, I wish they would leave. I feel divorce is for people who are married to drug users, lowlifes who don't take care of the kids or do housekeeping, cheaters, etc. You know you should get out of a bad situation with someone who won't change or has spent years making you miserable. Nobody should put up with verbal abuse, neglect, addiction or desertion. Certainly not adultery.
2006-12-05 06:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few variables. Are they pursuing their relationship with their Creator? Are they spiritually alive or dead? Are they showing their love for you or ignoring you? Are they abusive? Unhappiness can be worked out if both are willing. Divorce, according to the Bible, is in the event of adultry or death (including spiritual death) Our Creator does not want us to be drug down a misarble path of destruction, and does not want us to be with someone who is keep us from a relationship with Him. ( I have had several men, including a husband or two that were removed from my life that way) There is a book called "the power of a praying wife" by Stormie O'Martin. It is convicting, changing, and it does help if both hearts are willing.
Your relationship with your Creator is more important than anything on this flying rock and nothing should stand in the way. Work through it or move on, pray and the guiding light will shine on the right path.
2006-12-05 07:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by vjatigerrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
2006-12-05 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by JustAThought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to see this poll. Exactly how did it "come to your attention" that the majority of Christian divorces are among people who don't pray or read the Bible? And here's something else...if your definition of a Christian is someone who goes to church every week, prays regularly, reads the Bible daily, has a personal relationship with Jesus, and has never been divorced....... you can kiss calling this country a "Christian Nation" goodbye! Because that's not the majority. That's the minority.
2016-05-22 21:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian you should not be looking to your spouse to make you happy in the first place. Happiness comes from within yourself. If you are not happy... you need to get back to God. He is the source of all true happiness. Your miserableness will only be made worse if you add divorced to the pile. Yes, you should stay married. Unfaithfulness is your only true biblical excuse for divorce.
2006-12-05 06:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are supposed to stay married to death.
You know the old "To death do us part" If that is your vow.
To many people are getting married with no clue of what it takes to live together forever, and to spoiled to work to make it.
Add in low morals, lots of spare time and an abundance of temptation and you have the divorce rate we have now.
And some think we have evolved as a nation?
Peace!
2006-12-05 06:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that's a real pitiful reason to divorce someone, Christian or not.
Happiness is an emotion, and like all emotions, we do not live by them. No one has promised that you will feel happiness all the time, no one has told you that married life is bliss. If they did, they were lying to you lol.
Control your emotions, surely you are old enough to be able to. When God says "Be happy in your work", you should be mature enough to note that it does not say "feel happiness in your work" it says BE, in other words, do it whether you feel it or not.
Go get yourself a few Joyce Meyer's tapes on emotions and you'll see for yourself. Her theology is a bit weird, but she's rock solid dead on target about marriage and emotions.
2006-12-05 06:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is not happy in their marriage it is because of spiritual problems. Running away will not cure that, as that person will take their unhappiness with them. You cannot get rid of wicked spirits by running----they will follow you wherever you go. Instead of divorce, the person needs to discover the nature of the spiritual problem---why they are unhappy---and correct it. A closer relation with Jesus Christ is the only solution that i can think of to reverse what is going on in the relationship. Every case of misery has a specific cause.
2006-12-05 06:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by Preacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
supposed to stay married until death. Generally when two christians marry they know that they will have to work hard to make the marriage work. However the nature of the problem is that humans aren't perfect
2006-12-05 06:51:56 · answer #11 · answered by andys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋