Okay, so here goes. My boyfriend was with his previous serious gf for six months. They met in Iraq (they are both in the National Guard). So when they came home, she moved in with him for a week, before going back home to get the rest of her stuff, she lives in Wyoming and he lives in Florida. While there, she hooks up with her ex and becomes pregnant by him. They have been broken up for nearly a year now, and i found a conversation they had had on Yahoo messenger about how he missed her. Well, we managed to get over that, and I had added her to his ignore list on his messenger so i would know for sure they were not still talking. Today i found out that he removed her. He swore he would never talk to her, but why would he remove her from ignore, especially since he didn't even know i put her there to begin with...my ? is should i really be mad about it? He is with me now and she does live forever away and she is having another man's baby. Should i confront him about the removal or not
2006-12-05 06:47:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
***Just another note, he had ALREADY removed her from his friends list, I just secretly added her to the blocked list, just to be 100% sure that they at least weren't talking live....and now since she is removed, and i know i didn't do it, that means he is probably talking to her again.
2006-12-05 07:43:46 · update #1
Whatever you do now, you'll just end appearing like a jealous girlfriend. But as his girlfriend, you do deserve trust. If he goes around doing that, there just might be more to that situation. I'll say go and confront him... not beat up down or anything, just go and tell him you need to talk and express your concern. Maybe then you can see what the heck he's been thinking while doing all of this. Good luck!
2006-12-05 06:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blowing this out of proportion, the woman is with someone else and having a baby which is not your b/f, you do not trust your b/f you went through his messenger, say nothing to him about deleting a name on his own messenger. Forget about his ex concentrate on your relationship with him and get over the conversation he had with her.
2006-12-05 16:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably be mad that you were snooping in the first place. But, if it is going to eat away at you, you could try to find some way to bring it up subtly. If you just need him to reassure you about where you stand, ask him to. Figure out what you need from him and tell him.
2006-12-05 14:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have removed her without him knowing, that is kind of rude. If you are worried about it, talk to him - that is the best thing you can do, but do it nicely and don't sound too jealous. If she was an old friend, he should still be able to talk to her without you freaking out.
2006-12-05 14:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by Liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it be. He probably removed her because he was no longer talking to her and saw no point of just leaving her there. I wouldn't even bother bringing it up. It might start a fight that's not even worth fighting over.
2006-12-05 14:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him if he wants to get back with her to get back with her if he wants to be with you than he should change his messenger address or put her contact information on ignore for good. If he agrees then sit back and if he gets busted again tell him you found it and leave him with no discussion. People will try to get away with as much as someone will let them. There is no excuse for cheating.
2006-12-05 14:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You snuck behind his back & put her on ignore? Doing that might have made him think that he did it accidentally. You guys should be able to talk about anything if you are in a good relationship, weather it is difficult or not. Just don't blow up in his face about it.
2006-12-05 14:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never trust a man in the military. Most of them are cheating jerks. My mom married two ex-military guys and they both had affairs on her. Most are completed jerks anyway and have to boss everybody around.
2006-12-05 14:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tought question. um well ask why he still has her if they never talk. if he gets offensive just drop the subject but if not then POLITELY talk about it. it would be a dumb thing to get in a fight about.
2006-12-05 14:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you, go and find some one more fathfull, and you'll be happer when you do.
2006-12-05 14:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋