I am 19 yrs old, i go to college and finances are very low should i feel bad that i am not able to provide a good christmas for my 9 month old. i feel like next christmas when i'm done with school he will have a great christmas
2006-12-05 06:38:12 · 16 answers · asked by tiaon31006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't feel bad, the baby doesn't know who the presents are from, if he gets few from you and most from other people. Buy him special PJs for the night and cuddle him a little extra. You are a good mom to be finishing school!! Keep it up.
2006-12-05 06:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Ro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
Don't feel that way about it. Just buy him one new baby toy. If you can't even afford that it's fine. He's not old enough to understand anyway!
Look at it this way. You're getting an education so that you can give him everything he wants later. He's not even old enough to want anything! You don't even have to get a tree because he won't notice either way.
This is what I would do. Take a few dollars to Wal-Mart or another place that offers cheap portraits with Christmas discounts. Get some "Baby's First Christmas" pictures taken and make sure you get some small ones. Next year you can buy one of those great "Baby's First" ornaments and put his picture in it! That way you will still have something from his first Christmas and you can show him later how even a little money can get you something really special.
So stop being so hard on yourself. You're trying to make things better for your son; that's the best thing you can do as a mom! If your family is helping out I'm sure he will get a few presents anyway, because they'll feel like he should have something. But he doesn't really need it. Giving babies presents is really more for the adults anyway. Just start planning the traditions you'd like to continue for the Christmases he will remember! Maybe you could get a cheap portrait every year from now on. Singing carols is free. Drive around and show him Christmas lights. Things like that. Those are the more important things, anyway, and you should be proud of providing for your baby the best way you can. Do things like that and it will be a 'good Christmas' with or without presents!
Merry Christmas to you and your family!
2006-12-05 15:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is not about the gifts! So why wouldn't you be able to provide a good christmas for him/her? Do you go to a church service on christmas? Caroling? And your baby might NEED other things besides toys. To a nine month old all they want is to have the things they need - food, shelter, and attentive and loving family. Kids don't even really start figuring the christmas thing out until they are about 4, when they can open everything of thiers, yours, and everybodies. I think that it is a huge misconception that every kid needs toys and fun things to have a good christmas. There are tons of community activities this time of year that are free of charge and full of wonderful memories. And there are a lot of charities (Churches, DHHS, non-profits) that provide children with some gifts if you feel you want to give him/her something "fun".
2006-12-05 15:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there!! Last Christmas, I think I spent about thirty dollars on each kid. I have 2.
Your son is only nine months old. He isn't really old enough to understand what Christmas is about yet, anyway. You should be proud of yourself for furthering your education to probide a better life for him.
Try getting in touch with the Angel Tree people. I'm not sure how you'd go about it where you live, but you should be able to find out about it, and he can have a great Christmas this year, too! If you need to talk, e-mail me.
2006-12-05 14:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, School is very very very important. You must finish school so you can give that baby everything he needs when he is older. At 9 months old they really dont understand the meaning of christmas anyways, they are more interested in the boxes and wrapping paper. But you can go to your local walmart and ask to put his name on the angel tree, which is where people pick the childs name from the tree and buy him gifts for christmas and the child thinks santa did it! Good Luck
2006-12-05 14:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by yahoocraze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never feel bad that your child doesn't have everything, just do the best you can to provide that they have a roof over their head and food to eat and all the other basic necessities. My family and I had many poor christmas's after my dad left us, sometimes we couldn't even have a tree but that never stopped us from being happy. Material items don't determine happiness. We were a family and that was all that mattered. It all comes from the heart. Just keep working hard and everything will pay off! Besides, your child is only 9 months old, he or she won't even remember that Christmas and will have many more happy ones to come.
2006-12-05 14:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can provide a good Christmas for your baby.
At nine months, there are many things you can do together that he will enjoy much more than a few presents.
Try to have a tree up. You can buy small, prelit ones for $20.00.
I'm sure your baby will love to look at and touch the tree.
Also bake cookies and let him use his handprint in the dough to "shape" the cookies. Sing songs and play together. Watch all of the Christmas movies that come on television together to get in the mood.
Who knows, you may even start a tradition!!
Good luck to you!
2006-12-05 14:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 9 months old - he won't realize what's going on, much less remember that he didn't get the Leap Frog product, or whatever the latest "in" thing is. Get a couple cute PJ's or outfits and a stuffed toy or a developmental toy or a "Baby Einstein" video that the two of you can enjoy together, like the one on movement.
Even next year, he won't realize what's going on.
What he will get a sense of, and begin to remember is that you take time for him, that he can count on you to meet his physical and comfort and loving needs.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You're in school and trying to juggle that with parenting. That's a HUGE load. Take time to cuddle with your baby, read and sing to him. That's what he needs, that's what he'll remember. AND, in all the craziness - please find a way to stake claim to some time for yourself, you deserve it!
Good luck with school, and have a very Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-05 14:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At nine months I doubt if Christmas will make that big of an impression. Next year the child should get more out of it. So do not worry and take care of those necessary things this year. Next year will be more important in the baby's life.
2006-12-05 14:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by diogenese_97 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is too little to know. My daughter is 2 and i know she wont know the differents. I would put a tree up and you can make some christmas decorations. You can sing your baby christmas songs and make up silly new games. Babies dont have big expectations. I know my daughter will be playing more with the boxes at christmas then her presents. good luck.
2006-12-06 22:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could be better than having a healthy child? Do not worry, at this point in he does not realize what Christmas is, so if buying one or two gifts that is more than perfect. So do not be so hard on yourself, even if you could not get anything for Christamas, he will be happy just having his Mommy by his side at this point in his life.
2006-12-05 16:48:42 · answer #11 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋