Here is the deal. My husband and I recently decided to not have his sister and her husband around our kids. This is bc they say tacky things to them( our kids). IT involves an adult problem we have with them but the sil and bil try to involve the kids.They also LIE LIE LIE all the time! Prior to recently, they would only say tacky things to my hubby and i and not the kids so we just sort of ignored it. But since they have moved on to saying things to the kids, we have decided to keep them away. So anyway. Hubby tells his mother that we will not be at Christmas Eve ( the usual time his fam celebrates together). And her response is: "Well i guess i wont even bother having anything if yall arent there". She got all crying and pouty. I feel like the right thing for her to do would be to not invite the sil and bil and let her grandkids enjoy Christmas Eve with their grandparents ( My kids are her only grandkids). Should i cave in and tell my kids to ignore the idiots or stand my ground?
2006-12-05 06:27:18 · 3 answers · asked by cheese food product 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
* we have talked to them before and told them to cut the comments around the kids but "sil n bil" have even suggested that my kids "try to start something " COME ON btw the kids are 16, 11, and 4.
2006-12-05 06:30:10 · update #1
it just is starting to seem very "jerry springer" which is not what i want for my kids. i also dont want to teach them to run from their problems. ugh help . confused.
2006-12-05 06:32:39 · update #2
hubby had a convo about it with her and she agrees that sil and bil are wrong but her reaction after that was the pouty one so i dunno what to do on it really
2006-12-05 06:34:47 · update #3
I say stand your ground. What if you invite the grandparent over to your home for Christmas Eve to be with the kids? That way "Sil & Bil" will know they are not welcome and your kids can still have a nice holiday with their grandparents. Then the grands can make there own arrangements to share Christmas with "Sil & Bil".
2006-12-05 06:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with genuine1's answer. There is no reason for you to have to subject your kids to the tacky sil and bil. Just have your own Christmas celebration with your in-laws and let them have theirs.
2006-12-05 07:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had a serious convo about the situation with your mil?
2006-12-05 06:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋