Uncomfortable sex during pregnancy....?

Question

The frequency of my husband and I making love has REALLY decreased. Part of the reason is because it is uncomfortable, almost painful. (Example: last time he said it was like I was still a virgin, I felt the same. For him that means pleasure but for me that means pain.) I'm basically afraid of doing it maybe that has something to do with why I've considered not doing it anymore(read my last question re: sexless marriage). Is this normal? Has anyone else felt this way (in pain) Is there anything i can do to make sex more comfortable? It probably has a lot to do with his size, and I feel almost resentful towards him that he wants me to "use" something so big. This question is really hard to phrase. I hope you get what I mean and can give me some advice both on the physical and emotional part of it. (and on my other question too.

Answer 1

Its normal to feel this way emotionally while pregnant. The hormones cause you to feel all sorts of weird. Like maybe some how he hasnt done enough already getting you pregnant, now he wants to just be greedy or somethng... lol. Like he cant sympthize with you in your situation, or doesnt believe that you're discomforted.

It can also suck if he's not CAREFUL. itsjust rude really. You're letting him have sex with you, you certainly might not feel like it you want to, but as a wife you want him to be happy. So you have sex with him, the least he can do is lay there and let you control it so it doesnt hurt you.

It shouldnt hurt your cervix. Have you been able to tell the difference yet? If he's too deep it irritates the cervix and thats really uncomfy. It can cause bleeding, thats generally how you know he's too deep.

The discomfort in your vagina is normal. You get SOOO swollen durring sex when you're pregnant, it honsetly does swell things up to the point that the hole is smaller and easily irritated.

I know i hurt for a couple days after sex, and iam almost 9 months. Its not my cervix, just the vagina from being so sensitive and easily swollen.

I also know that being pregnant and not having sex really freaks me out for the reason that what if my husband finds me ugly, or disgusting, or what if he starts looking elsewhere. Honestly though, its a futile concern. lol. Men like soft warm things, and a good man certainly does freak out for not having sex for a few months.

You can get really dry while you're pregnant and having sex, that can really make things worse. If you're going to keep at it, maybe lube up a little. Also, fearing the pain and not wanting to have sex can make the act more painful as well.

If its not enjoyable, dont do it.

Being on top, and being the one who controls how much activity, and how deep the penetration is can really make it more comfortable. You have to kinda find new ways of sitting, laying, mashing together, around that belly. But eventually you figure something out. He just needs to understand that even after a while of trying you might have to call it quits and leave the deed undone.

There are worse things in his life than blue balls. :)

Answer 2

I taked your point.
As my knowledge,initially every position will not be proper for sex while you're pregnant.You need to consult your counselor that which position would be better while I'm pregnant.
On the other hand if you think the infant will be harm from the sex and you can't sedative this will be main reason why you do feel pain during the sexual intercourse.
You need to relax,as you know the infant do not feel or get any harm.
You can also use the lubricant which quality is well known.But I suppose that everything is culminating in your brain.You can provide the sexual intercourse which is not include any pain.
Also you need to talk your husband in order to find acceptable solution for this situation.
You can devise the most enthusiastic intercourse during your pregnancy.
I also believe that sexual intercourse during the pregnancy is completely diffirent and most zealously than the others which are so usual.

Answer 3

It is important to maintain the sexual aspect of your relationship during pregnancy. I think a lot of your problem physically may be the initial fear of the pain. This may cause you to "close up" and tighten up. Because of your partner's size, this makes it even more difficult. The stress that you anticipate is probably the biggest issue here. Try to relax, I know it's not easy. Try to liven up the routine a bit. Do something to start off that will make both of you comfortable and try to relax before you initialize intercourse. Maybe this will allow you to relax and be less tense down there...hope this helps. Best of luck to you and your husband!

Answer 4

My friend told me that sometimes it is painful during sex while preg. Your husbands size is probably not making matters any better. But all in all this is normal. I'm no expert but I heard that the further along in pregncy you get you can no longer do it missionary. So I suggest you hop on top, this way you control the pain, or get it from behind, with this you could also tell him to stand still and you do the pumping either way your still in control and you know better than he does what you can take.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

It is common for it to be uncomfertable when prego. In my case my Uteris (not goot at speling sorry) is tilted and when I get prego that causes it to be painful. Also your body may just not want it. I was that way too. And anther thing you could just be tensing up durring sex worried about the baby. try to take a bath and relax beforehand and try not to think about the baby when you have sex. You can always talk to your Dr they may have more ideas or just tell you not to worrie about it right now.

Answer 6

A sexless marriage can be healthy and there are other ways to go about pleasure.

I had some uncomfy sex during pregnancy. We usually didn't have much sex though due to me being so tired.

Maybe try different lubrication's and tell him to be gentile.

Answer 7

Have you tired massaging and lubricating down there? I didn't have this problem (I actually had the best sex of my life while pregnant), but no sexless marriage is healthy.

Answer 8

hey girl, i understand how you feel, sometimes it hurts when im intimate with my partner, so i got a new one, just kidding. you and your husband need to come up with some sort of compromise hint hint, so that both of you are pleasured or happy.