I'm 16 and a HALF! and have been wanting to have my bellybutton pierced but my mother is against it. I really want it and I think i'm responsible and mature enough to take care of it. Should I do it behind her back or just do what she says? Please help.
2006-12-05 05:46:12 · 35 answers · asked by Jayde 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
It one sentence you claim to be responsible and mature.
In the next you consider doing things behind your parents back.
Look up the word contradiction.
All of your answers from underage piers will tell you to do it behind her back because they are as immature as you are.
You already know the right thing to do. What will you choose? Are you as mature as you claim to be?
2006-12-05 05:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Getting the piercing behind her back is far from being mature and responsible. Doing something like that shows you have no respect for your mother or her feelings. You will not only being ruining a lot of trust with her, but you will be in lots of trouble. Trust me, I've tried to hide piercings and it doesn't work. The civil and correct thing to do is to wait until you move out to get the piercing or try talking to her again when you turn 17 and keep the talk adult like (that means no yelling or guilt trips).
So listen to mother for the time being, respect her wishes and respect her trust for you. Wait until you are older and get it done then. If you want it that badly, waiting will only make the experience better.
2006-12-05 06:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with your mother on this one. I don't think that it is a good idea to EVER get your belly button pierced, but wait until you are an adult. Never go behind your mother's back and do something. She WILL find out if you do that and then she won't be able to trust you. It is very important that you keep your mother's trust. As long as you have her trust, you will have more freedoms. If you violate her trust by sneaking around and doing things contrary to what she thinks is best, then your life will get much harder. You only have a year and then you will be a adult and you can move out and make whatever choices you want and screw up your life however you want. Until then, just know that your mother loves you and only wants the best for you.
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My Modern Dance Teacher in high School, used to say "Values and Morals, NEVER go out of fashion". Contrary to what others on here may tell you, Good values are never old fashioned. Your mother knows what men will think of you if you do that. She is just looking out for you and it is not in your best interest to do this. Also just because you are physically able to be a mother, does not make you old enough or mature enough to be a mother- so that arguement is just not valid.
2006-12-05 06:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Definitely, you should be able to get it... in a year and a half, when you become an adult.
Before then, listen to your mother. No matter how mature you believe you are. Seriously, you only have 16.5 years of experience to judge your own maturity level. Do you really believe that you have learned more in life than your mother?
As my high school History teacher used to say, 17 year olds are not entitled to an opinion. When I was 16 (I graduated early), I thought this statement was so horribly wrong. Now, I can see the wisdom in what he said.
2006-12-05 05:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by joycedomingo 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I got mine done when I almost turned 18.. and I got it behind my mom's back because she would NEVER allow me to get it done at ANY age, and we didn't get along well a while ago. It really isn't anything once you have it for a while. I think u should wait atleast until you are 18. Besides, it's a pain when ur piercing gets infected, and you can't garantee that it doesn't. Besides, it would only look good if you have a flat stomach, atleast not a fat stomach. If you get it done behind ur mom, and she finds out, it will hurt her deeply. My mom cried when she found out, about 2 months after I got my done. In a sense, it's kind of a betrayal.
2006-12-05 11:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doing it behind her back will only show her that you aren't trust worthy. You have to wait til she ok's with it or you are old enough to do it on your own. Why follow the crowd anyway? My daughter went through all that and has taken all of her piercings out now anyway! It's really just a fad thing and will blow on and something new will come in it's place. Keep your Mother's trust!
2006-12-05 05:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you can wait a few more years. dont do it behind your back. i dont think you would be able to anywyas since you need to be 18. and having someone pierce it and her finding out you could ruin that persons carreer. ect. anyways just talk to her line an adult. bargain with her. say if you get good grades for the rest of the school year then have her take you as a gift for doing good in school(this will only work if you get somewhat undecant grades though) you soudl just wait till you are 18. she wont be able to say anything. i got mine doen with i was close to turnign 19. my mom hates it as does my bf lol. but its your body and when your 18 you can do whatever you want with it. se wont be able to stop you since you are considered an "adult" oooohhh wooow. =p but you should wait till you are 18 or just try to bargain with her about getting one. always keep the conversations appropriate (no screaming arguing swearing ect lol)
im 19 and a half now.lol my navel piercing is 5 months old. and yes they do take quite some tiem to heal, m ine still is.....they can take up to a year so my advice to you is when you get it done ,whenever that may be pick out a piece of jewelry your going to stick out with for a few months (up to 4)
good luck!~
2006-12-05 07:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got mine pierced at 16 behind my dad's back. I took super good care of it, but one morning I woke up to find it next to me! It tore out and I have to look at the gliest scar ever! Infection is so abundant with belly rings. Don't let anyone fool you into thinking otherwise. I learned the hard way! Also, not all bellybuttons CAN be pierced. If yours is too shallow or tilted wrong the piercing person should NOT do it! If they do your belly will reject it (tear). Besides, belly rings are so 1990's! Piercings are out!
2006-12-05 05:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think you have to have permission to do that if you are under 18. Also, I think you should have a talk with her. Tell her that you think that you are mature enough to do what you want with your body. Also, tell her that piercings can go away, tattoo's can't. You are old enough to make your own decisions, and she should start treating you like an adult!! God bless, and good luck!
2006-12-05 08:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by .:Feliciano:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your respect for your mother and your relationship with her, is a seperate issue.
if you think she knows what it best for you, then you might consider her opinion.
as far as belly button rings are concerned, it depends on why you want it pierced. you obviously want to show it off, by wearing no clothing in that area, which will make you more sexually appealing to men, which could lead to you getting laid. should 16 year olds be getting laid? i dont know, i guess its up to them. however, you can still get laid without a belly button ring. think about what kind of men a belly button ring attracts. probably the kind who ONLY want to get laid, and dont want to get to know the girl.
the fact that you are asking if you should do what your mother says, suggests that you arent so sure you are adult enough to make this decision yet.
I say err on the side of caution, you have plenty of time to deface your body and become a slut, and its not the safest hobby. get some years of experience with the world before you go advertising your tummy on the street.
2006-12-05 05:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I see no reason why she wouldn't let you pierce your belly button. But maybe she "thinks" she's looking out for your best interests and thinks you will look like some sort of skank. I think belly button piercing's are awesome though. I wouldn't do it behind her back though because you don't want to disappoint her if she finds out. I'd just kiss alot of *** until she changes her mind. Just act extremely mature and sit her down in a few days to a few weeks and then, do some research. If you could prove some sort of case to her about why you need and want one, that's what would show maturity to her.
2006-12-05 05:51:07 · answer #11 · answered by A Blonde Belle 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋