how long till u get serious?

Question

k, i'm 15, just got a 16 year old boy friend, i hardly knew him before we met at a gig and got dancing
a week later he asked me out
after 5 days it started to get serious, by which i mean everything but penetrative sex
is this normal for other couples?
i've talked to him about me feeling slightly used, he was really sweet about it, but nothing really changed
argh
i dont really feel used, just a bit confused as...actually i have no idea, he's my first boy friend and my heads all abit mixed up at the moment

so, my question is, how long did it take u to get serious with your partner? and how old are u?

thanks for the concern, but i'm not feeling pressured, and no, i'm not some 15 year old ****, i know who i am, and am firm about things if i dont want it, i was just wondering what its like for other people

Answer 1

Depends on how much u know about each other and what u know. If the feelings still exist by then, then maybe things r getting serious. Depends on how well u know him..his good/bad points etc. Just go with the flow..if u like him the more u get to know him then u'll know.

Answer 2

about 1-2 years

Answer 3

I think 15 years old is way to soon to be getting serious about anything except school. No guy should be controlling you anyways. Especially for something you are not ready for... Only you know if you are ready for a serious relationship, but at 15, you cant even drive, why have sex and feel like you have to stay with a guy forever right now? There is so much out there for you to experiance, just wait until you are ready.

Answer 4

Boys that age are just after one thing, though of course he probably does really like you as well.
Hate to say the inevitable but sex before 16 is illegal and that's for a reason, because you are still young and obviously your question shows that you are a bit confused.
Don't do ANYTHING you don't want to, if he doesn't like it then he's not worth it.
And to answer your question I normally make em wait a month or so, and I'm 27!

Answer 5

I think you're are confused. You first mentioned that your were feeling used but later mentioned that you weren't. Go with your instinct. If you aren't feeling comfortable with the pace of the relationship then you need to tell him. Honestly, there is no set rules or regulations when it comes to dating. How long it takes to get serious with someone really does depend on the couple. For someone just getting out of a long term relationship it may take them a few years to be ready to get serious with someone. For someone younger it may be quicker. For me it took nearly a month or two for me to know where my relationship was going. Just know what you feel confortable with because honestly that is what counts and matters most

Answer 6

I don't know what your religious beliefs are but I believe the ability to have children is a precious gift from God. Therefore sex should remain within the boundaries of marriage. Marriage itself is a Holy Sacrament I believe and union of man and woman should be blessed by him. Having sex before marriage is a mistake. My son met his girlfriend when he was 16 and is now 21. They plan to get married next year-so if they have a child it will have a father and mother. From what I gather, you haven't known this boy long. So I would advise great caution. What are his feelings for you and how long will they last? If you don't know him well then he could have an STD. Saying no is ok. Take care and God bless you.

Answer 7

If people got impeached based on how they're doing their job, Bush should have been out of there a long time ago, they only impeach people on things like their sex lives. The constitution *is* a flawed document, based on 18th century values that were in place at the time it was written. That is why our government has had to make amendments along the way. It has been amended 27 times since it was written, including the abolishment of slavery, and the rights of women to vote added to it, anyone who would say that we must stick to the original constitution would automatically throw out amendments like that, as well as things like the right to bear arms. To acknowledge flaws in the constitution is not a statement of hatred toward it. The amendment of the constitution to serve changes in American values is part of our heritage. It is not as simple as the president saying he doesn't like it, and it has to go, that is why we have a system of checks and balances between the legislative, judicial, and executive branches, neither the president or congress have absolute powers to do things like that, they have to answer to each other, and to all of the states. In order for the constitution to be amended, it has to be supported by 2/3's of congress and ratified by 3/4's of the states. For every constitutional amendment that has been ratified, there have been thousands of proposed amendments throughout history that haven't even made it through congress. The United States is a work in progress, that is part of our heritage. Go to wikipedia, and look up the stuff you snored through in high school history class.

Answer 8

Don't ask yourself if something you're going through is "normal". All that matters is what you feel ready for and what you feel comfortable doing. If you are not comfortable doing the things that you are doing with your boyfriend and you feel used then tell him you are not ready for this and stick to it. If he understands you will still be able to date eachother and just take things slow. Sexual activity, however, is not always what makes a relationship serious. At such a young age it is hard to understand what makes a relationship serious so just be young, have fun, and be safe and responsible. If you decide you are ready to take things to the next step and engage in any sexual activity (not just intercourse), make sure you are ready and make sure you talk to a school nurse or a health teacher about safe, responsible sex.

Answer 9

listen to an old dog !! guys at sixteen are only interested in one thing and that's not getting serious with anyone , and anyway why would want to get serious now, take your time in your life, live it cause these days girls your age are getting pregnant from guys who cant decide on what they want to become let alone on who they want to be serious with !! so my advise is when the time comes you will know but you are still far from ready. oh yes and dont give it up for at least 3 years then see how serious this boy is !! be patient little one

Answer 10

its down to the individual. but he would be breaking the law until your 16 and could be put on register. if he's a decent lad he will wait and you should too. don't rush anything, your young and will probably play the field a bit before you settle down, and you don't want a rep. for sleeping with any lad. If you do go with him though.. take precaution's, you don't need kids at your age like my 13 year old niece. it can happen to you. Also, 1 in 10 people have chlamydia which can make you sterile.Good luck and remember, be safe.