My niece is getting married and has a dilemma on how to correctly place both her Biological Father and her stepfather on the Wedding Invitation. She loves them both and wishes to place both on the invitation but just don’t know how. What suggestions can you make to help her out with this problem? Her older brother is walking her down the aisle to avoid hurting either of her Fathers but the invitation is a different problem. PLEASE Help
2006-12-05 05:28:16 · 11 answers · asked by jessejamesthegreat 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think I'd leave off the whole thing and just say
Bride and groom
together with their parents
request the honor of your presence.
Otherwise, it's going to be
Mr Smith and Mrs. Jones
Mr. Jones and Mrs. Jones the second
and
Mr. and Mrs. Groom
2006-12-05 05:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why can't both fathers walk her down the aisle?
If the two men get along, there's no reason that they can't both give her away and both be on the invitation. Hopefully, they both love her enough to put aside any jealous feelings for that day.
How the names should appear would depend on how long this man has been her step-father, and who is paying for the wedding.
Talk to someone at a stationery store that makes fancy invitations. I'm sure they're up on the etiquette for this kind of situation. Even if you don't plan on buying invitations there, ask them. They'll probably be willing to give you advice in the hopes of getting your business.
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2006-12-05 13:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dboy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughie. I suspect the place that prints the invitations will have some ideas of things they've seen over the years. One of my friends with a complicated history simply listed "Parents of the Bride" and put all their names.
You can also do something like:
"Mr. and Mrs. Ray Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
are pleased to announce the wedding of their daughter
Jane
to
Brandon
son of Dr. and Mrs. Evan Doe
blah blah blah"
2006-12-06 00:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
List them alphabetically to avoid giving any sense of precedence to any family member:
"Mr. John Doe, Mr. Jack Smith, and Mrs. Jane Smith are pleased to invite you to the wedding of their daughter Mary Elizabeth Doe to William Robert Groom, son of..."
OR
"Mr. Jack Smith, Mrs. Jane Smith, and Mr. John Doe are pleased to invite you to the wedding of their daughter Mary Elizabeth Doe to William Robert Groom, son of..."
The traditional format is: "Parents of the Bride invite you to the wedding of their daughter Bride to Groom, son of Parents of the Groom, at Location, Day, Time." So you can expand the parents to include other important family members, or if you want to be really inclusive, put "The Smith, Doe, and Groom families invite you to the wedding of Bride and Groom."
I also agree that both fathers could walk her down the aisle, one of each side, if they get along. I've also seen the bride escorted by any combination of her mother, brother, grandmother, etc, whomever her closest living relatives who helped raise her.
2006-12-05 13:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen several invitations that list all the parents. In my step-sisters case, she had her mother and her step-father as well as her father and step-mother.
To me I feel that it's an honor to both of them. By putting "their parents" it is very generic in my opinion.
I will have this same issue, but both of us have children. So to keep everyone from being hurt, our children are requesting the guests presence in our wedding, since really I'm no longer my father's to give away, but rather my sons.
2006-12-05 14:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's proper to list the biological first then the step.
2006-12-05 15:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto Violet. It covers all the bases and includes everyone without naming names. And there shouldn't be a problem with both Dads walking her down, or walking down by herself.
2006-12-05 15:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon whom is paying for the wedding.
If her mom and stepfather are, then the invitation should say.
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith are pleased to announce the marriage of their daughter, Mary Jones, daughter of Anna Smith and Jake Jones, to....
If she and her fiance are paying, then it should say:
Mary Smith and John Black are pleased to announce their marriage on....
2006-12-05 14:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by gemthewitch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is too much to have to figure out. Just put on the invitation-
Jane Doe and Joe Cool,
together with their parents,
invite you.....blah/blah/blah....
2006-12-05 17:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason not to. make sure your father knows your wishes before hand. It is your day & you should do what makes you happy. How about....
Mr & Mrs John Smith and Mr Jones proudly announce....blah blah blah????
2006-12-05 13:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by U can't b serious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋