My beloved Granny is dying, it will be soon as her illness is progressive, she has pancreatic cancer. I am so close to her, and I am feeling so depressed. I have a hubsand and 2 children, and cannot seem to get it together. I am tired all the time, don't care if the kitchen is messy (unusual for me) don't care about the holiday season, this is all so out of my ordinary. Help me? How can I come back to reality from being so sad, I want my old self back.
2006-12-05 05:26:16 · 12 answers · asked by Premo Mom 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My Granny has maybe at the most 2 months to live. She is 90 and has had an amazing life, for this I am proud, we are very close, she considered me her other child. I also live 4 hours from her now, and I have guilt that I cannot be there to help out with her, and great guilt that when the time comes I may not be there with her like my Dad and brother will be able to. I am usually happy and very peppy throughout the year and even more so during the holiday season. All I want to do is sleep and cry, I have missed 2 days of work since her diagnosis and I never miss work. I saw her Thanksgiving and am going to see her again next week for an early Christmas, I hate feeling like this!!
2006-12-05 05:46:48 · update #1
This is so difficult for all of us .
I am sure that your Granny is a wonderful woman. A beloved Granny.
God wants to take her now....she will be pain fee. Your Granny would want you to continue your life in a normal way..I am sure of that.
You will miss her terribly I am sure....Tell Your Granny how much you love her and you will always love her.
It may be time for her to cross over to Heaven...help your Granny make that transition. You will cry and be grief stricken, but your Granny would want you to continue your life and move on.
In time, you will adjust to her passing and you will reflect with happiness and smiles about your beloved Granny.
One day, you will see your Granny again in Heaven.
From a Man who loved his Granny.
God Bless you and your Beloved Granny.
2006-12-05 05:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your Grandmother. It is painful to realize that someone we love so much will no longer be with us. Your grief & sadness is normal but it sound like it is now spiraling into a depressive episode. Here is a suggestion to counteract some of the depressed feelings you're dealing with.
Your Granny will pass. This is now a hard and imminent fact. Take steps to accept it and turn her passing into something more peaceful. Like celebrate her life by putting together a scrap book with pictures and other special memories.
Take time to reminsce and even write down your memories of the good times. Get your Granny invovled if she is well enough. Create a many great memories as you can while she is here. Instead of focusing on death focus on your Grandmother and all the love that you will always share.
Good Luck and God bless. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
2006-12-05 05:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Part of what you are going through is normal however what you are describing sounds beyond the scope of normal grieving. Is it possible there could be some issues that need to be resolved from other sources? Yes there is the normal "holiday depression" and that along with what you are going through with your Granny may be the cause of the way you feel but it wouldn't hurt to get checked by a professional then you would know for sure and if needed you get some short term medication. Hope this helps, good luck.
2006-12-05 05:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear all this. I know how you feel since both my grandma and aunt died from this terrible illness within one year from each other. Try to be optimistic. There is a lot of people who recover from cancer even when they are really sick but (sorry to sound mean) don't get your hopes up more than you can handle because that's what I did and it felt soooo bad. In case that something does happen, think that your grandma will always be with you in your heart and your memories. I also once heard that when each person dies, a star gets put in the sky. So she will also be watching you from above. They say the brightest stars, the ones that stand out to you, are your loved ones. If she moves on, think that perhaps that's the best thing for her, because she will be resting from all the suffering cancer caused her. Also think of your family as a motivation. Your children need you healthy. If you worry too much, you'll just get sick. I would also advice you to pray a lot. God will give you the strenght you need and I am sure he will take care of your grandma. He needs your grandma with Him for a reason. I would also advice you to let her know how much you love her. Enjoy all the last moments you are able to spend with her. Best wishes to you and your family.
2006-12-05 05:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by MrS. JaCk SpArRoW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying I am so sorry you have to go through this. It does give you a great oppertunity to discuss the life cycle with your kids. I know that grief affects people in different ways and if it is hitting you this hard you may need to join a group or seek professional help. I am going through a similar experience with my grandma as well and the way I like to see things is that she has lived a full life and she loved each of us and she is pain and she doesn't like being this way so when she goes it will be better for her and we don't have to see her struggling or suffering anymore. I do hope you make sure to let her know how much you love her so she will be peaceful!
2006-12-05 05:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaww, I'm really sorry about your granny. I know how you feel. After my dad passed away, I slept in the basement for 3 days. I dont know why, but I felt better being alone. You just need time to greive so dont feel bad about letting things go. Remember the good times you had with granny and know that soon she wont be suffering anymore and she'll be in a better place than we are. Go spend some alone time with her. That will help.Please feel free to e-mail me if you want to let it all out, that helps too.
2006-12-05 05:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 22:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it, friends, family. You need a good support system to get through things like this. Help make your Granny's legacy. What are some of her great accomplishments in life?
2006-12-05 05:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by nursgrad07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need patience.How much longer does she have ?There have been cases of spontaneous remission. We all have to die some day .Did she have a good life ? Is she suffering now ?If so it will be a relief when she passes on remember that.
When my wife passed away i found it best to go right back to work and get my mind off it instead of sitting around at home and grieve
2006-12-05 05:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving is so difficult. Grieving is also when mother in law has been mean spirited, watching her abuse my father in law and me; for years, and since my son passed away this is just added to what I am going thru. I feel my husband cannot help me nor anyone else. Please give me some advice to get thru this, why years of abuse suddenly comes to surface, and I can t handle it and my son is gone.
2016-03-16 10:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Helen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋